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jackiejolie 09/25/2013

There is nothing worse than dreaming of your ex, and for a few seconds before you awaken properly, you are free of the pain of reality. Then it all comes flooding back and you realise it was just a dream. I feel like I'm living my worst nightmare.

I find if I dream of him at night, it makes the day so much harder. You feel like you just recently spoke to them, or held them... Like exposing the wound all over again. Why does your mind betray you?

Help :(

deleted_user 09/25/2013

Because its healing - and thats how its processing things - through your dreams.

I still have dreams of my ex - not as frequent though - and it was never where we were holding each other - mostly yelling - name calling, etc. So I was relieved to not have it be reality; but it still happens from time to time.

I am sorry you are going through this - but rest assured your mind is processing and healing - even while you are asleep - I know it doesnt feel like a good thing - but you are definitely going in the right direction.

xoxo

deleted_user 09/25/2013

I have this problem of dreams of my ex and i also wake up thinking of her almost every day. Its a difficult way to start the day..

FloJo246 09/25/2013

I dream of my ex every single night. It drives me nuts and I thought I was the only one. I dream we are shopping or going out or at a party and nothing has changed. Then I wake up and reality floods in and I cry because its not real so I know exactly how you feel. Its almost impossible to get out of bed because I just wanna go back to sleep back to the dream where we are happy. I had a weird one last night where it was I the futire and I was married to a man, I was pregnant and had a baby and once it was delivered they handed me my baby and I looked up at the person beside me and it was my husband and I cried because it wasnt my ex girlfriend and I wanted it to be her there beside me while delivering our baby :-(

deleted_user 09/25/2013

Im sorry, I cant relate to this one. I do dream of my ex, but they are bad dreams not good. I agree with ilove, your brain is processing everything in its own way. Sucks bc you are vulnerable while your sleeping. :( Much sympathy

deleted_user 09/25/2013

I've not dreamed of my STBX since we split. Now only if I could stop dreaming about work...

jackiejolie 09/25/2013

I wish my dreams were bad, maybe then id wake up assured that I'd done the right thing.

Instead my mind is trying to get me to remember only the good times... Traitor.

deleted_user 09/25/2013

I don't think youd wish for the bad dreams either. Trust me. Lets just both wish for no dreams. :) KAW1962, stop dreaming about work! LOL.

deleted_user 09/25/2013

I had this problem really bad last night. Dreamed of competing in a race (I run obstacle races competitively) and she was there, and I was telling her how well I did. She used to come to my races all the time. I was set to compete for the world title and have had to pull out of going because I am completely out of shape now due to the stress from this situation. I woke up this morning feeling horrible. But as the day went on, I felt better. I have heard that these dreams are a part of healing, and I assume that it is our subconscious reminding us of what was our daily life. I believe that in time and a new routine our dreams will consist of other things..

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