KTs, I wish there was something I could say that could make you feel better. Unfortunately, I am way too familiar with how you are feeling. I will say that you are not alone. I know that a virtual space is not the same as in person, but I am here with you. - Hug

Hello KTS - I know exactly what you're going through. My wife of 11 years told me she was divorcing me out of the blue 2 months ago and it devastated me. I woke up this morning out of dream of her and I together cuddling and the realization that will never happen (with her) was crushing. But i keep telling myself that I will meet someone else and that this horrible time of my life will end and I will be stronger for it. And so will you - you will meet someone else that will love you and stand by you. We are all having ups and downs. Try to stay positive and have faith that things will get better eventually. I know that's hard to believe but just take one day at a time. I've been meditating and reading about Buddhism and how to work toward inner peace and happiness. It helps me - hopefully that could help you. You are a worth person and will find love again. -S

Hi KTs, I'm so sorry you're experiences this.. I've been blessed to only have had 3 dreams in 3 months about my ex, and two of them were pretty negative (usually I dream all the time, so I think my mind might be trying to give me a break..). But I know that when you do have them, even when they're negative, they leave you feeling just gutted.

One thing I've found helpful with dreams (good and bad) is to remember that after a few hours their sharpness wears off. They're so vivid initially but they do dull and fade pretty quickly. Then I remind myself that even how terribly I feel about the breakup right now will also eventually wear off in the same way (my ex is also now with a another woman).

I've also found it helpful to write down my dreams in as much detail as possible and to try to suss out what they mean about what my mind is trying to process. Even when I initially woke up from ex dreams feeling like I'd reconnected with him and missed him, when I broke the dreams down and really considered what was going on in them (how I felt, how he looked, who else was there, and when/where they took place), they'd actually pointed to a lot of problems in the relationship and things I didn't necessarily want to go back to (which is something I never thought I'd say..). A cuddling dream might be one to skip trying this on.. probably best to let that fade without clinging to it, but it might be worth a go if you keep having them?

I hope this helps and all the best.

You are all so kind to respond and each comment, each hug, each word of advice helps me feel less alone. Thank you. I will try everything that each of you suggested. Life is such a struggle and I'm hoping all of us can find the peace we deserve

KTs - I don't know about dreams but I can tell you that I feel the same way. I am furious with my husband and what he had done to our life and our family and our future but I miss him so much. I want him back which is ridiculous because he doesn't deserve me or our family after what he has done. I can't wait for the day when I am just mad and don't care what he thinks or feels! Hugs to you. Go out today and do something that makes you happy.

The sweet dreams suck. Plain and simple. I had one last week, a holding/cuddle dream that led me to a hysterical crying session upon waking up. We are hurting so much and used to turn to that person to take away our pain... now they are the cause of it. It is such a devastating feeling to have those dreams, but it is our brain's way of trying to process. I want to tell my brain to knock it off and cut me some slack - I'm going through enough right now. :-) Hang in there. You are not alone!

I know exactly how you're feeling, I am going through he same motions...I kept thinking that I was crazy, and that I shouldn't feel this way and want him back so badly... but It's part of the heart break process... we just want the pain to stop and if that person comes back, we'll immediately be ok...I don't know that that's even possible... the issues, problems will still remain...stay strong, take it one minute at a time, and know that alot of us are in the same boat...

A strong memory of our past relationship is what hurt the most. you can be better and happier if you give yourself the chance to start over again. go out, spend time with friends, listen to music and do what makes you happy. there are better days ahead of your. just make sure you don't go back to whatever hurt and break you