Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Does it ever get better?

Smilez
Smilez

Has anyone here ever felt even close to healing from a past break-up or in my case i do not even know if i can consider my interactions real relationships...it alarms me because i feel like if i knew how to cope with "break-ups" then they wouldnt hurt as much each time...so am I just blocking emotions? this last "relationship" i had was very short-term and i do not understand why it felt so heart-breaking...is there any hope of healing properly?

Smilez
Smilez
Every time I see my person's name i cry..why do I even care if he was the one that walked out on me? Why am I sad if he is living his life while i feel shattered? I just need to vent and I know a lot of us out here feel the same or need to vent also. I hope this is not too repetitive it just does not feel good. I feel like i am battling within myself..i do not know if it stress, low-self esteem, loneliness, or do i really even love this person? I thought love was meant to be self-less and giving and i do not feel at peace.
looney1
looney1
So sorry you are suffering. Just because you and this person weren't compatible doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You've got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I'm the meantime try working on your self esteem. I managed this by doing a meditation/mindfulness course with a cognitive behavioural component. It's taken years and I'm still a work in progress but I'm learning self love and non attachment. If you are letting others determine your self worth you will always suffer. Let this motivate you to find your better self. You are better than this. Big hugs and best wishes for your journey.
LoatandWandering
LoatandWandering
i know how you feel...i battle with self esteem every day since my break up...its been alittle over a month and SHE still haunts my thoughts and dreams...i guess part of me knows i have to move on but the rest of my heart has a hard time letting go.
you feel empty..you feel no one will give you again what you felt...you feel lost and wishing they would turn around and realize what a mistake they made...but they moved on...for whatever reason...we have to pray that love or something better is supposed to come and thats why things happened. i feel for you and know you will get through this...i have to believe that or else iw ould go nuts.