Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I knew I shouldn't, but its his birthday. I was just hoping to wish him well and be done with it. OH NOOOOO. I couldn't do that. I fell right back into the whole I love you, I miss you, please lets work it out spiel to only find out that he recently started dating. We broke up 10 months ago.
He says its uncomfortable and really doesn't like the newness but its getting better. He said they have only gone out a handful of times, but there just wasn't any going back for us. He has moved on.
Its absolutely amazing how you go one day looking at our future together to be broken up. Then comes hard feelings. That part I dont get. It was supposedly a distance issue, but he seem cold to me. He says his heart has hardened since our breakup. Says he is not the same man as he was when we were together. You don't get that way because of a breakup due to distance. Something else is in his head and he wont say. It kills me!
I am a strong person. I have handle a lot of crap, but this breakup has gotten the best of me. I thought I was getting better then a couple weeks ago i started feeling lonely and really thinking of him. Stupid positive affirmations, meditation, medication, and therapy dont seem to be doing the trick. Next up may be to try hypnotism to make me forget him.
Bottomline, as much as you want to, do not contact. Let them do it if need be. Now my self esteem is shot all over again. I look like a fool and gets to sit back and smile that i stooped so low.
He says its uncomfortable and really doesn't like the newness but its getting better. He said they have only gone out a handful of times, but there just wasn't any going back for us. He has moved on.
Its absolutely amazing how you go one day looking at our future together to be broken up. Then comes hard feelings. That part I dont get. It was supposedly a distance issue, but he seem cold to me. He says his heart has hardened since our breakup. Says he is not the same man as he was when we were together. You don't get that way because of a breakup due to distance. Something else is in his head and he wont say. It kills me!
I am a strong person. I have handle a lot of crap, but this breakup has gotten the best of me. I thought I was getting better then a couple weeks ago i started feeling lonely and really thinking of him. Stupid positive affirmations, meditation, medication, and therapy dont seem to be doing the trick. Next up may be to try hypnotism to make me forget him.
Bottomline, as much as you want to, do not contact. Let them do it if need be. Now my self esteem is shot all over again. I look like a fool and gets to sit back and smile that i stooped so low.
Its one of the greatest mysteries of my life. I have NEVER EVER been this way. Its like im a crazy person. I feel like my life is never going to get better because I can't get him out of my head. And I know better.... How many time have i told girlfriends they aren't worth it. Life is fine without them, you are better than them, you will find someone better. Yet look at my balling my eyes out of an as**ole who doesnt love me anymore.
If I could just go out on dates to forget about him. Cant do that because my stomach gets all tied up in knots over it. Im a mess I tell ya. Im lonely yet dont want to do anything about it.
I do get out with friends, but its different when you know you have no one to go home to tell how the night was and someone to care.
PITY PARTY!
Look at it like you have nowhere to go but forward- it isn't much, but it helps-
I agree we have all been there, I was in a very abusive relationship, and I thought I wanted mine back after I had removed myself from the situation-
Life does go on- there will be tears for a very longtime, but you will make it through.
I have to say no contact at all has worked well for me- it does away with that awful feeling of yet again another rejection..
Move forward, nice and slowly- you got this!!!! :)
HUGS
I have no answers. I spent the night yelling at myself for even considering the idea of being his "other woman". No, he didnt ask..but i doubt it would take much to get him to agree.
Not gonna do it, but was yelling at myself for even letting the thought in to my brain. KRYPTONITE/CRYSTAL METH!
He is much better than me in the sense feelings can go away so easily. It probably should not take this long to get over him. Last time we spoke was November.
I dont think I will ever feel this way for another man, but that may not be a bad thing. I cant do this again. My heart and spirit are shattered and have been since November. Who can go through this more than once. NOT ME!
I cross my heart promise one day you will be. Not today, not tomorrow, maybe not next Tuesday but at some point? You'll realize you are OKAY.
Thank goodness for friends, they let me cry to them all day yesterday and last night. One friend put it into a perspective that helped me feel better. I just need to continue to think that way and try to stop the memory of him as soon as it hits my brain.
Today, I am still a little po'd. How dare he take up space in my head and cause all these feelings. He is no longer in my life. He has no right to make me feel this way. I obviously am not in his head. Just figuring out how to do that.
My therapist says one day it will feel better. She says that maybe I needed yesterday to open my eyes, get closure on the situation, and finally get mad about it. Then hopefully the lost, missing feeling will disappear.
I think part of it is that I am really feeling the lonliness these days. I'd like to have a companion. Problem is that my comfort zone is with him. The thought of starting fresh makes me sick to my stomach. I am beginning to fear being forever alone and never feeling love again.
Feel better :)