Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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cmshinn 05/21/2012

Ok, so I learned over the weekend that the woman my husband ruined our marriage for, is moving out of my house. She quit her job and they fight so much that she is moving home to her daddy. At least this is what I heard. So why did my heart go pitter patter with excitement and the glimmer of hope over come me? How could I possibly want him back after how he has treated me all these years? What to I do? How to I stay strong?

MettaBhavana 05/21/2012

I don't know if this helps for you, but I try to differentiate feelings from actions. For example, you can have compassion for your pain and make room for your feelings of missing him, your grief and sadness, and even the feelings wishing you could be together again--you can experience and ride out those feelings, but at the same time, know that they are "just feelings" and you do not need to act on them in any way. I know that is easier said than done, but it is something that has been helpful for me. Take care.

deleted_user 05/21/2012

i agree. we can want some things but deep down we know that those things are just bad for us so we have to ignore the feelings. a lot has happened that just can't be undone. there just is no fooling the heart when it knows the truth.

you have a good life ahead of you full of people and interesting things. try to look forward because that is where your joyful experiences will be. not in the past.

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