Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My ex is a very controlling man. He controlled every aspect of my life. He didn't like my family, so he did he did his best to keep me from them and tried to turn me against them. With the help of my daughter and sister in law I was able to leave. But I had to leave most of my things behind and got the shaft in the divorce. Oklahoma is a 50/50 state, all assets and debts are divided equally. I had a credit card in my name with a balance of $2200.Since I was a homemaker and had no money I had to agree to his terms----He got the house and contents,plus the car. I got my clothes, jewelry, and craft items. He would pay all debts. I had no choice but to agree. I now live with my daughter and son in law. My divorce was final July 14, 2016. Since then I have had some bad days, yesterday was one. I spent the afternoon crying, doing a little better now, but can feel the tears welling up
I know what a struggle it is to get out of bed some mornings. I know what loneliness feels like. I also know what it feels like to leave a controlled relationship and be unsure of who you are and what you like. One day at a time. Hugs.
Everything was mortgaged to the hilt. You
Basically got the Clothes off your back after
49 years. Was he narcisstic by any chance?
Are you going to therapy and/or divorce
Care.org to help with the grieving and the
Divorce related issues. HUGS
Into therapy. This is a long hard journey out Especially
with abuse involved it makes for many Layers.
You could contact DV support too they Help with
trauma and abuse and are free plus loads of other
Services. And referrals. I beat every Bush i could
find to help myself. HUGS
That is usually not the case, but many have been so brainwashed and/or conditioned they believe it.
It's just very unfair that after that length of time the courts allowed you to sign your future away.
I truly hope you find happiness and can slowly rebuild.
It's emotionally difficult at times, but with support it passes.
Allows such unfair settlements to go thru.
People can revisit the decree if you were
Pressured or forced into signing over your
Rightful settlement especially if you did
Not have your own representation in the
Divorce. Many times it can be overturned
If you did not have your own lawyer.
They like to have each of you have your Own
lawyer. Not just one because they can not represent
both Of you in a divorce.
Gain up your strength, seek therapy to help Guide
you during your transitioning and starting To heal
And feel safe.
Let yourself grieve your losses the good or Bad it
does not matter. They are losses of dreams And the
life you thought you would have.
I am glad you have a loving supportive family. HUGS