Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been in a relationship with this girl for three years. We got married in November and am now looking at a divorce. I am not perfect I will be the first to admit it. I have made my mistakes and have been trying to fix things. Our relationship has had its own problems and problems from outside of it due to her ex and custody issues. There is a lot to explain looking for some friendship and advice on what to do. I love this woman with everything I have. I am trying to show her that but end up just hitting a wall. I just don't know what to do anymore.....
( and when I say fix - if you and your spouse are not well as human beings, can it be better? Would the two of you be willing to let go of the past and stop bringing up the past in the arguments if you reconcile ? )
The third part is : do you both agree to save the relationship?
If things are bad, my suggestion is to have a trial separation with some clearly defined rules about what you will be doing during that time . For example :
- start weekly therapy
- dating/sex with other people not okay
- bills are to be paid according to your agreement I suggest getting it all in writing and you make your own rules. If you two both want to see other people - fine , but it is unlikely to help.
While you maintain separate living spaces , you main regain the respect for each other that you once had and there is always a chance of reconciliation.
Good luck with everything and hugs