heartspain I am so sorry you are experiencing this today. There is never a good day to have to face something like this and the holidays are hard enough. My heart grieves for you.

You WILL get through this, as we all have. One minute at a time if that's what it takes.

Sending hugs and love. You are in my prayers.

that is just evil!! so sorry.

I'm sorry, that's just insensitive.

I'm so sorry I am so sad my husband left again last night and were parted on Xmas. Are you male or female? You want to talk?

That is awful, and cruel. I would put them aside and not look at them till after the holidays. Just cause they came doesn't mean you have to deal with it this second. Just put them away , they can wait. Try to enjoy your holidays. Of course you will feel pain , just hang in there.

I'm so sorry, how painful for you. Yes you will get through this, with time. Try and don't think about it till after Christmas. put the papers away and put it out of your head for a day or two, those papers aren't going anywhere. When I got served, that was about the hardest day of this unwanted journey.
I'm so, so sorry for your pain, sending you hugs and prayers. I promise you it does get better, until then come here to vent and share, we are here for you!!!!!

I wanted to add that my ex signed divorce papers on my birthday, happy birthday to me, ouch, it hurt at the time I saw them but now it doesn't matter, once I got the decree I filed it away and don't plan to ever look at them again, God willing.

Dear HeartsPain,

You can and will get through this. Love yourself in any way that you can. You and the rest of us will get through our pain and we will come up on another side.

I know it's difficult to grasp this now, but there is a better place, and you will get there.

Remember to always look to the light--whatever it is for you--look at it. If it's prayer, or art, or dance, or music, look at it, create it listen to it. Be it. Write your sorrows in a journal.

Be with friends and family, even if you don't want to, spend time with them for a little while.

On the other side of the storm is new sunshine, new laughter, new learning. Wait out the storm of the heart and the heart of the storm. You are exactly where you're supposed to be now, no matter how much it hurts.

Here is a poem by Rumi that has helped me:

The Guest House
by Jalal al-Din Rumi

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

TAKE CARE OF YOU, HEARTSPAIN. WITH TIME YOU WILL CALL YOURSELF HEARTSJOY.

Sending you a gentle hug.

Insensitive, no it goes far beyond that. Evil is well put. It is hard enough for me going through this holiday knowing the papers will comes and the kids will find out their home won't be the same. But I guess I can feel my wife is not as malicious as yours. May God bless you with a peace and strength that transcends your pain.

Heartspain,
I feel your pain ... But this says more about your soon to be x, than yourself. (Heart less)
You definitely deserve better than this. Better days ahead, ... For both of us.
With deep sympathy, TCB

Thank you all for your kind words and support. It most definitely has been a tough journey, still on this path...can't wait to get off. Hugs to you all!

*hugs and prayers*

I'm so sorry. Christmas was awfully rough here too, a pivotal time for me in accepting that my estranged husband was never coming back. You will get through this!

Hi Justdrifting,

I truly have no idea, she broke my heart by leaving. 6 months has passed and I still wish she would come back. My story is in my other posts and journal entries.

I am not an alcoholic, drug user, not an abusive relationship, she just decided one day she wanted out and wanted to be on her own...