SPEW. Tell her you have made a mistake confiding in her and will seek out someone else from now on to talk to who can be supportive without being judgemental.

I get the same kind of reaction or worse. The one that makes me the most angry is when someone tells me to let the stbx know that he is still part of the family! Doesn't anyone think about how this makes me feel? Anyway, I just quit discussing it with anyone who can't be supportive (which left me with one friend and this site).

My STBX wanted to stay married just because of the taboo. I don't care what anyone else thinks. It is my life and I will live with my decision. How does the divorce affect others? If there are no children involved, then it doesn't need to affect anyone else.

I've been lucky as all family members have been supportive and non-judgment. Of course, I don't know yet how our social circle of friends is going to take it but I think those who I count as good friends will be quite supportive.

Newme, I think it is quite common for people to react negatively for a number of reasons. NONE which have anything to do with you. Sometimes, people who are in unhappy marriages themselves feel quite threatened when someone close to them divorces. Maybe she's jealous. Maybe she's worried that her spouse will get ideas. Who knows? I find that when people are being very judgment they usually have a hidden agenda. I agree with Blahblah, I won't confide in her anymore. And if she makes unsolicited comments just say, 'whatever' or "maybe you're right" and walk away.

Each time my husband and I split up, my mother in law would get all over me. She would always tell me about her marriage when she was young and how bad it was. But, she would also admit to being the person "who would cut you down w/ my words". And that's who her son is.
So she has no idea of how it is to live with that person, only to live AS that person. Nobody knows your heart as well as you do yourself. And that's all anybody who cares about you should consider. At least, that's my opinion.