I can sympathize and empathize. I am divorced. I share 3 children with my ex husband. I caught him cheating when I was 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child. Yes you have to share and get to a place where you can coparent. It does take time and trial and error to get there. And yes you are going to hurt very bad and miss your child terribly. Its true. But kids need both of their parents. They do. And sometimes you aren't going to get him on Christmas morning and he may run and hide his face in his new stepmom's shoulder on the first day of school. It sucks. I have a new baby with a man who we just broke up over the weekend. I thought finally I'm going to not have to do this whole broken family thing with this new baby. Nope. No such luck. I can tell you that now I have been divorced from my three oldest's dad for 6 years. I went over to his and his new wife's cookout this weekend. We are all friends . The bitterness and anger is gone. He lives up the street from me and our kids ride their bikes back and forth. He has them half the week and I have them half the week and on his days I can go do fun things on those days with friends. So I think you are doing right to make the most of your time very special and cherish that time and try to keep busy when you are apart from him. Message me whenever!!!!!!! I've been there and really am still there. I too don't know how coparenting with my new ex is going to go but I know that my ex husband and I are at a very very good place in the coparenting world and are children are very happy and well adjusted and loved.

I can sympathize with you, for sure. It was terribly hard for me at first to leave my two young children with their dad every other weekend. My kids were one and four at the time, so little like your boy.

As hard as it was, I decided to use those weekends to get as much done as possible and to get as much sleep as possible! I wanted to be rested for up for them when it was my time and to have most of my errands done so we could have fun together. Several years have passed since those early days, and now their dad lives in a different state. I have to say goodbye to them for the entire summer, which is a whole new experience ...

I hope you can find what works for you and your son. I will definitely pray for you, that God will help you through everything. Do you have any other support like a church or counselor?

Thank you to both of you for your comments and sharing your stories it does help. I do go to church and have got much involved in church and it feels great. I also go to therapy weekly or bi-weekly as needed. I have great friends but just no one who really understand what I am going through. No one else I am close to has really had to deal with divorce.

I am praying that we can get to a point where we can be friendly and co-parent on good terms. I am trying and do my best but my ex continues to be very hard me on and turns everything into an argument at this point. Which is not good for our son. Its been almost a year since i left and nothing has changed between our relationship.

Good - I'm glad you're connected with a church and a counselor. I understand the communication problems, too. It's great that you're praying for a friendly way of interacting, especially for your son's sake. It may take time, though, and it may take removing the emotion as much as possible from your conversations ... also tough. :)

Another thing that helped me was going to a Divorce Care group at a church nearby. Have you heard of them? If you go to their website - www.divorcecare.org - you can put in your zip code and find a group near you. I think I remember a chapter in the workbook on communicating with your former spouse about parenting issues and other things.

Sounds like you're doing good things - hang in there and keep doing the best you can. God will do all the things you can't and way more than we can imagine!

if i was the three year olds father i'd be fighting for 50/50 custody

my kids were 13 & 15 when the custody shitstorm started, ms spider offered every other weekend
i wanted 50/50

But most of all, due to my kids age, i wanted them to have their say
one chose 50/50
one choose 50/50 in the summer and 2out3 weekends during school

ideally a child has a mommy and daddy