Hello ReneeNJ. I'm sorry you are going through this. I am here to tell you as a survivor of divorce, that it's not a death sentence. You will find the strength somewhere to get through this, especially since you have a daughter. You will be on an emotional roller coaster, this is normal. You will also grieve because divorce is very similar to a death. I highly recommend you get yourself a lawyer to represent you. Do not agree to anything without passing it by someone representing you. This is YOUR future at stake. (((HUGS)))

I can tell you that you will survive this and thrive. Misred have you some great advice.

Divorce is hard and you have to do the work to get past this. Some days will be good and some days you struggle to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Eventually your days get easier and you start making a life that is right for you. You can either bury your head in the sand or start working towards the life you want. Be sure to find a Divorce Care group at one of your local churches. Divorce Care was a life saver for me. A good therapist helps too.

It's an remarkably normal reaction.

As the others have said, it's a roller coaster. I won't say everyone, but many people make it through the process happier than ever. (I will never say that the whole thing was "worth" it, but...I am in a good place now.)

Divorce Care can be great. It's got a Biblical approach, but in my area it was totally welcoming of atheists, and made me feel completely welcome. If one group doesn't suit you, I'd try another before giving up on it.

How to get through it? One step at a time. In the beginning, it seemed like one hour at a time. But time will pass, you you WILL make it through it.

Healing hugs, Patti

Omg

The 2017 class of spammers must have just graduated in Nigeria.

They send them all here to DS.

Hi Renee. I agree, I don't know how we are going to get through this. What I do know is that it appears a lot of people have or do or try. I still cannot get over the shock of my husband asking me for a divorce. It hurts like nothing else I have ever experienced. My life sucks right now, not even going to lie. We share the same house, it's going on the market and then, that's that. The death of a marriage. I waiting until I was 30 to get married, engaged for four years. I had never been more sure of anything except having my kid. I don't know how we are going to get through this, but reach out, we'll try it together. Good luck!

Hi everyone. I'm overwhelmed by the feedback. I honestly thought my post was just gonna sit there. Thank you so much. I'm doing the best I can and I'm having a rollercoaster of emotions already. To anyone who has experienced or is experiencing divorce. I'm so very sorry. But I guess it's true what's said"Like a Phoenix we rise from the ashes to be reborn better than before" . I'm just not looking forward to the road there.

Its a journey for sure and a long one at that.
HUGS

Sweety, take one day at a time. I prayed my way through. God bless. Hugs too.

Find a Divorce Care group. It will help. I attended my second one last night. It really does help.

It's never easy to try to understand when something this hard hits us. Is he open to maybe counseling to try and work things out? As others have mentioned, we are here to help support you through this whatever the outcome. You didn't mention a faith or a belief, but if y'all attend church somewhere, perhaps the minister could help y'all sort through this. I'm very sorry and I will be praying for healing and restoration for y'all.