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HeaveToo 08/05/2008

Yesterday I did something really good for myself. I joined a gym and began to work out. I swam 40 laps yesterday so I feel good today. Surprisingly I am not sore! I am going to go in a few minutes and swim another 40 laps or so. I am really going to dump the rest of this extra weight fast if I keep up. I need to because I will look better, feel better, have more confidence, and be healthier if I get down a few more pounds. My ex really did do me one favor, she kicked my butt into gear. When she left I began to loose weight. Now that she is gone I am more motivated to do this for myself!

deleted_user 08/05/2008

kinda know the feelin.
took me nine months.. but him leaving really gave me this drive that i haven't seen in forever.
i should thank him.

(((hugs))) on doing what you want to do. it's hard to take the step. we all want to do things. but making ourselves do them is another story altogether.

HeaveToo 08/05/2008

Yeah. SO far I am down 30 pounds. I think that I might try to make it under 200 pounds for the first time since College. I was 210 in college when I was swimming and diving. When I left highschool for college I was a tiny 170 pounds (scrawny). Then came the weight room and hours of working out. Now I have a size 50 set of shoulders. I have just a little bit left to loose around the mid section and I will look sharp!!!!

deleted_user 08/05/2008

Yay Heave! So happy for you hon. Keep up the good work. You can do it.

deleted_user 08/05/2008

That's great, Heave! You're absolutely right. You'll look better and feel better too. Exercise is a natural high.

deleted_user 08/05/2008

I'm happy for you! My problem is the opposite...I've lost too much weight and had to stop running in order not to get really sick. Of course this is counter productive as exercise boosts seretonin (sp) and endorphins that help w/ depression. I hope to be able to snap back soon so I can be where you are. Keep up the good work!

deleted_user 08/05/2008

So do cookies. Eat cookies, Red.

deleted_user 08/05/2008

Your sweet Maggie. Unfortunately I have evil high cholesterol (genetic thing...horrible family heart history) that I am barely controlling through diet/(and till now) exercise..Cookies aren't worth having to take Statins for the rest of my life! Besides, I can barely swallow foods I love through the heart break. I'll get back somehow...just wish I could do it faster. You are all an inspiration to me...thanks for the life-line!!!

deleted_user 08/05/2008

Oh, no cookies for you Red.

So I guess ice cream's out too, then, lol.

deleted_user 08/05/2008

Good for you!!!!

HeaveToo 08/05/2008

Finished my workout a while back. I swam over 1/2 a mile (50 laps). My shoulders are going to get bigger I just figured out. Maybe they won't but they are already really muscular I don't see how they won't get bigger if I am swimming again. WHo knows.

It feels good though and I know that this is going to be a good thing for me!

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