Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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sarees199 12/30/2018

I need some advice...... idk what to do or think. This going to be a long post..... idk what to do or think anymore. My husband..... Weve Been together since 2007. He has 2 children from a prior relationship - my step kids - who were 8 and 10 when we met. They are now 19 and 21. I love them as they are my own. We have no children together.Husband told me the Saturday before thanksgiving he is “talking” to someone. Devastated. Had no idea..... I asked him every now and then, hey you and me were ok right? We’re good? He would always say, yeah, were fine you have nothing to worry about. I asked him this 2 weeks prior to him telling me about the affair. He says She is different and exciting, he states she started it, and she said she is very attracted to him. I left, because the house we were in was ours and everywhere I look is us and it’s hard to be in that house knowing what he’s done. I have sent texts and called saying I missed him, I love him, this is a mistake and we can fix it because we’ve Been thru so many other awful things and made it we can do this. No answer other than let me know when you’re coming to get the rest of your stuff. Then he calls me, telling me he wants to see me in person and so I go see him. He wants to see me in person so he can tell me who he’s now been “ seeing” because it got out on her end and he wanted me to hear it from him not someone else. I ask home

How long, really, because who leaves an 11 year relationship for 2 weeks as he told me the day he confessed. He said October. Again, I tel him we could have fixed this. I Iove you and probably always will...... because I’m sure I always will

Shaner23 12/30/2018

I'm sorry my ex did same thing was seeing someone behind my back we were together 20 years and he said I'm not in love with u and we tried to make it work , we did counseling and he seen her the whole time. So I ended it and we divorced and he married her and doesn't have anything to do with our kids. We cant make them stay no matter how much we want it. It will be hard no doubt about it. Hopefully we will find someone who loves us.

mynewnormal 12/30/2018

I'm so sorry.. feeling blindsided is an awful feeling. Take some time to feel the hurt.. and start thinking about what you need to do. Find a lawyer. It's time for you to think of YOU, because he obviously isn't. I know you're hurting.. I've been in your position, and right now it's hard to imagine a life without him.. but you don't deserve a man who doesn't love, respect, and support you as a husband should. Hes making a very selfish choice, and eventually he will see hes making a huge mistake. You need to remember this pain.. remember him turning his back while your hurting.. because when he comes running back after reality slaps him in the face you need to remember how he truly feels.. like your someone so easy to walk away from. Pull yourself together as best as you can, put your ice queen mask on, and walk away with what your lawyer suggests is your fair share of the life he felt wasn't good enough.. be strong, and keep this pain as a reminder of what you don't want.. and what your not willing to put up with from anyone - especially a husband!

You've been given a gift.. a gift to see who he really is, and a chance to take your life back and move forward to a new life and a new you. Keep your head up, and take it one day at a time.. you can do this.. find your strength, and walk away - he doesn't deserve your heartbreak.. he doesn't deserve the satisfaction of seeing your hurt.. you have amazing things ahead of you, just keep that in mind.. you're absolutley not walking this walk alone.. many have walked this path before you, myself included.. find strength in those numbers.. DS is an amazing outlet.. and very helpful to vent and remind you that you're- one day at a time.. you can do this

pooh726 12/31/2018

It is so hard to understand and we seem to try and hold on to every minute we can with so much desperation. I am taking it day by day and most days I am not ok, but as I sit here I realize it was hard but I made it one more night. It been 26 days for me and I think I am starting to accept what my life is now. Do you have hobbies or interest that would get you out of the house and get your mind off of all this even if for just a short time ?

sarees199 12/31/2018

Do you really think..... that he will see that he has made a huge mistake? Or is that just something people tell people going they this to make it hurt less? I don’t mean any offense by that I just..... idk it’s so hard to believe that he will believe he made a mistake and try to come back to fix it. I just don’t see that happening....I want it to happen but I don’t see how

EmmasNotAlone 12/31/2018

Hi, I agree with you. He probably won't come crawling back but who cares!!! Get on with your life. May I say, PRAY? Pray through this. It is possible that God has someone right for you. Also learn from any mistakes made in this past relationship so your next relationship will be better. Seek friends to go out and do simple things with: walk on the beach, talk, pray together, go running. One last thing to remember is that in heaven things kinds of things will never happen for many reasons. For one, marriage, sex will not exist in heaven yet LOVE, honest and true LOVE will abound. Sexual relationships can be very A-loving and A-sexual relationships can be the most loving we will ever have. Also, adopt a kitty or doggie from the pound. Hopes this helps.

mynewnormal 12/31/2018

Him wanting you or not wanting you back shouldn't be your focus. Your focus should be knowing hes turning his back on you now.. hes not thinking of what's best for you, hes thinking about him alone.. that's not a trait you should admire or want in your mate! Hes showing you his true selfish colors. Let him go, and don't look back. You deserve someone who will give you the respect and love you deserve.. not just when its convenient for him.

I do think he will come crawling back someday.. may not be soon, but yes, I think he will realize what hes given up and ask for forgiveness.. but again, keep in mind who he is right now.. and ask yourself if this is the way you deserve to be treated.. I hope you walk away from him, and enjoy this gift of freedom that hes given you. No one deserves someone's sometimes.. especially not from their spouse.

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