Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Idk where to start...
i'm trying to understand...i've been reading every article and quotes trying to figure out or acquire some sort of understanding in the hopes that it would make me feel better but in actuality it's not working...
Long story short-6 year relationship; he cheated; found out he's dating someone else. He refuses to admit it, refuses to apologize, i chose to leave. But my thoughts are all over the place...the emotion is there; cant seem to concentrate; cant seem to stop crying. I mean i did think this guy would be "it". We were great together, we made so many future plans...i just dont understand how or why...how could he do that to "us"? I think if i get an explanation or apology i would feel much better but knowing him as well as i do; that probably wont happen anytime soon if ever...
i know all the verbiage, everything happens for a reason, see the good in all bad situations, have faith, work out...unfortunately despite the fact that i know all this, it doesnt make it any easier to deal with the gut wrenching pain i'm feeling right now.
i'm trying to understand...i've been reading every article and quotes trying to figure out or acquire some sort of understanding in the hopes that it would make me feel better but in actuality it's not working...
Long story short-6 year relationship; he cheated; found out he's dating someone else. He refuses to admit it, refuses to apologize, i chose to leave. But my thoughts are all over the place...the emotion is there; cant seem to concentrate; cant seem to stop crying. I mean i did think this guy would be "it". We were great together, we made so many future plans...i just dont understand how or why...how could he do that to "us"? I think if i get an explanation or apology i would feel much better but knowing him as well as i do; that probably wont happen anytime soon if ever...
i know all the verbiage, everything happens for a reason, see the good in all bad situations, have faith, work out...unfortunately despite the fact that i know all this, it doesnt make it any easier to deal with the gut wrenching pain i'm feeling right now.
Have you checked out
Www.chumplady.com
Great website on getting rid of a cheater and making a better life for yourself. You deserve someone who doesn't cheat. My ex wife cheated on me after 24 years and left me and our daughter a year ago. I definitely know the pain but believe me it does get better, stay no contact if you don't have kids together. Another great site:
Www.breakuprecoveryguide.com
This site helped me immensely too. Hang in there :)
Our journey is now to heal and find a new life
Grieve and know that there is only one side who cares about the loss of our love and life
The other does not and has chosen to move on without us
We will never understand them and our hearts and lives pay the huge cost for their callous actions
How can we understand someone who loved us so dearly for so long
suddenly decides to love us no more
They plan it a long time before we ever have any idea
I just need to get to the place where i can see that there was nothing i did to make him be a jerkoff...and just stop beating myself up for being so good to him. i just wish that i wasnt so good...i wish i was a jerkoff also...maybe then it'll hurt less.
Stay good
and take who you are forward and only accept some one who truly appreciates you