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dealing with people

LEE3KELLY
LEE3KELLY
It's so hard to deal with people. It seems like if you don't fit into a perfect box that your expected to fit in, then no one cares. I have no support and no one to talk to. Even when in relationship with boyfriend or ex- husaband; I often feel alone and lonely. My family tears me apart over nothing when I feel they are wrong in what they do. If I bother with people I always end up being hurt. I just don't understand why family and supposed friends are cruel, believe rumors, an even make things up. Why are many people so hurtful?
Justme2892
Justme2892
How are people tearing you apart?
dsb188
dsb188
I think you have to look at two important things. Yourself and others. Sometimes we put expectation on others that we expect them to rise to but they have no intention of getting to or can't get to. That isn't their fault.

I'm not saying you are to blame but I think its important to know what triggers your emotions and realize what you may do or others do to trigger certain things.

I think that if people are constantly hurting you you have to remove or limit your involvement with them.
hpnote
hpnote
I agree that you should understand the expectations you put on others, because you can't change them. They have to change themselves if they are being hurtful to you. If you do not expect them to be perfect then their actions will not hurt as much.

If people are making up stories about you simply limit your time with them. This will give them less power over you.
charliegirl29
charliegirl29
I think accepting differences for everyone can be very challenging but if you are willing to accept theirs while they are unwilling then why waste time on them.