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Dealing with Loneliness

cwalla
cwalla
How do you deal with the loneliness? I know everyone says stay busy (I agree), take care of yourself (I agree), but what I am talking about is the bed time hours. This has NOTHING to do with sex, I am talking about the comfort from having someone just hold you, knowing they are there. Does anyone find that to be one of the hardest things?? For me, that is way over the top on the scale of pain and heartache.
deleted_user
deleted_user
well, i have been having problems sleeping and am up at 2 am on a support board because i cant sleep. does that answer your question? :) i was doing really well and now almost 4 months in- my divorce was final at the end of august- i have started going in a different direction. i do miss having my exhusband there holding me, keeping my feet warm and holding my little hands in his. i have tried to put pillows and other soft things in the bed with me so the bed doesnt seem so big. sometimes my pup pup sleeps at the end of the bed too. at first it just seemed like it was HUGE but now its getting better.
i am sorry you are hurting. please know you are not alone. its good you are reaching out. its a rollercoaster ride.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Melatonin is my friend. It is a natural sleep aid. No nasty side effects. It is the only way I am able to sleep at night.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No, I don't miss it at all! The ex had some weird sleeping disorder. If I make the mistake of waking him up, he'd start yelling, screaming, swearing, kicking and punching.....

I also really don't miss the snoring and farting!!!

If I really feel like I need to hold something, I hug my pillows. You can buy a long body pillow just for that purpose. As for the not sleeping....don't know what to say as I have never slept that well. Melatonin works for some, but it never did for me.