Just focus on getting moment thru moment.
If you can, listen to some music. I like classical - it calms me.
Be around your fur babies if you have any. Call friends. Come here as often as you need to.
Just breathe. This stuff isn't for the faint of heart - thats fo sho. You are still here. You are doing whats best for you. Know you arent alone.

xoxo

Rufus is right, its gonna be a moment by moment process for the first days, and a few many more after that.

It sounds like your mind is continuing to remind you of what it would be like if you went back. While I want to say don't focus on that, try to focus on yourself, maybe a get together with your friends even if you only stay for a moment or two, etc. But at the same time, your thoughts are going to continue to sway back to this from time to time. So try to remember just what you wrote here, Just how it will be and you will feel if you do go back.

Its gonna take a lot of will and strength to not fall back in to the comfortableness of it at first given where you are living, and how hard it is in general to walk away from someone you once and maybe do still care about. But try to remember why you left. Why it is best for you to not be there anymore. What it is you are wanting to walk towards in life and try taking steps in that direction.

Stay strong and believe in what you know and yourself, always.

Best wishes and Welcome to the group

I agree with ChiTown completely!

Just take some time to really think about why things were not working for the two of you. It is really easy when you leave to focus on the good and forget all the bad. But there are issues if you felt you needed to leave.

Hang in there!

I know how you feel. I'm on day 12. This entire time i've battled with whether I made a mistake by leaving or if it was an impulsive decision, but like you said, once you're back it's only a matter of a short time before you feel like you should leave again. We made that decision for a reason(s) and we should try and think about that. It's easy to think more about the good times when you're apart but when we're together we think about the bad. Like someone told me when I just felt like going back: You need to take this time and space for yourself and concentrate on what YOU need. This time apart will help you both reflect on what the next step should be. Hopefully you can both talk after some time apart and try to see each others' perspectives and address what needs to be worked on or what needs to change. I hope that can happen for you, unfortunately for me my partner is extremely one sided and only brings his terms to the table without willing to hear mine. Be strong. It's tough, these 12 days have been hell for me, but it will make us stronger and it will give us perspective. I'm here if you need me. We all are.

I am on day number 3 and today had to stop by the house and give him money. I was so proud of my self because I told him that it was more than just a break I wasn't coming back, ever. I knew it on Thursday when I left but just couldn't bring my self to say it to him that day.
I left there emotional and wanting to cry but didn't want him to see that, so I managed to hold off until I got in my truck and then cried all the way home.
I am still resolved I am not going back and once I have made up my mind I am good to go.

I am sure I will still have my weak moments, glad once again DS is here for me :)

I just saw this. Good on You!

You know you are on your way now. As you said, you will still have your moments, but I believe you have gotten over a huge milestone.

Stay Strong.

Keep yourself busy and keep your mind on other things. Also start doing stuff for yourself. Make yourself a priority.

You'll be giving someone else advice in no time. Be glad your strong and able to stick to the plan. I would break down every hour