No suprise that the long drawn out divorce is leading to a drawn out post-divorce.  We had it put into the marital settlement agreement that by tonight he would have written down the stuff from the house that he is going to take.  Initially he's moving to his moms, and we all agreed in the last meeting with the lawyers that he could store what he wasn't immediately taking here.  I need to know what I'll need to replace.  Certainly this isn't asking much.  Oh, but for him - it is.  I even printed out a spreadsheet where he could list what he wants from each room.  I actually started it for the upstairs rooms, listed everything in the rooms, but there's too much to list - it's simpler if he lists what he's taking rather than absolutely everything we own.

I knew he didn't do any of this on his own previously, because he's lazy. Asshole.  So tonight I asked if he was ready.  Yes he was, he said.  We were to walk the house together.   I later brought him the sheets that I had partially filled out, all of the sudden, he's not ready.  F*ing wonderful.  I reminded him it was in the decree, in a snotty manner he said "I knew you were going to say that.  Go call your lawyer, then.  I'm not married to you anymore, I don't have to do anything."  Well, he never ever did what he didn't want to do, so not being married is no different than when we were married.  I wanted to just walk away but I turned momentarily immature and muttered "I just can't wait until next Saturday, it'll be the best day for me in years, aside from this past Tuesday".  Tuesday we got divorced, next Saturday is the day he's supposed to move out.  In the decree.  Which apparently means little.  I'm fairly certain by tomorrow he'll be more agreeable, but to have to manage him like a baby is so irritating.  And to put up with his crap, still, just because I'm financially tied to him and that new house, it's nearly unbearable at times.  If I could buy him out of this old house, I'd do it in a heartbeat and be just fine with throwing his stuff into the shed, changing the locks, and moving on in peace.  Selling that new house is paramount to minimizing contact.

To that end, he's jeapordizing the sale of the new house.  A couple is very interested. I happened to be there when they were looking at it and spoke with them.  The husband wants to talk to ex (the GC) about making some changes in the garage, so I gave him his number.  Ex is promising to give this couple an estimate of what it woud cost to make the changes and it's just ridiculous.  Ex wants to become the GC for this family and manage the changes.  Before they even buy.  It's the stupidest thing I've ever heard.  We're stuck financially until we sell the house, and ex is STILL trying to delay the sale and maintain control over his f*ing dream house.  I fear that this couple will run for the hills when they realize that he is just full of crap and excuses.  Luckily, I got notice tonight that there's another showing for it tomorrow for another family.  

I just want peace.  Just want to never see his stupid face again.  Want it all the way over with.  

What do I do if he doesn't move out on May 20th?  The personal affects I can deal with.  If he doesn't move out, what do I do?  

What do I do if he doesn't follow through with the paperwork needed to set up alimony and child support payments through the probabion department?

We also have agreed (not my idea) to paying 50/50 for all expenses related to selling the house.  He swears up and down that he doesn't have the money (like 5G) but he could get it "somehow" and I'm not supposed to spend anything till he can show proof to me (as in the way of a check) that he can meet the expenses 50/50.  This is so messsed up - I can see this putting the sale of the house on hold indefinately, because he won't have the money.  This was the last issue of the settlement, and it took an entire day to come up with this solution.  Blech.

I'm not borrowing trouble here, I'm anticipating what can very likely happen with this immature person.

I had to spend another $4000 this Monday and Tuesday settling the divorce.  It's cost me $40,000.  I can't spend any more money.  AARRRRRGGGHHHH!