I just met a nice friend a while back who;s husband left her when she was 7 months pregnant. I have no idea how someone could do that. I would focus on you and the baby. Believe me....if you have not had a kid yet there is no better way to feel alive then to have a child....I was the father so I didn't get the full effect but it was amazing. focus on that if I were you. hang in there...it must be awful at times. people will be here to listen.

it is awful. and i just want to go out, have someone make me feel like im wanted anyway. like im worth taking out still.
i dont know how he could do this ither... not even try. he says he tried so long in the past... i never knew we had problems, other than that i was sick and looking for work. but bills were paid, even if things were tight. so he ditched me, so he could save money???
i bet he is happy now, he just got 3000 dollars.
now he can get his stereo system in his car. which is what he was worried about.

but i need to quit lingering on him, its killing me. and i just think that if i could go on a date then i would feel better about myself, not like its the end here, who will want me. i know its not true, but its how i feel. ive been asked out, but he never called back.
i went to lunch with an old friend of mine, we used to date casually, and he had to go in the middle of lunch.. he paid, but then said he was tired and did not feel like driving back to the restaurant.... i had waited. so im feeling a bit rejected or unimportant.

A lot of that is the pregnancy hormones hun. Do you have a good girl friend or someone you can hang out with on a regular basis? I would enlist their help. I really wouldn't even worry about a man right now. The last time you want to start a relationship is when you're pregnant because here in a few months you're in for a hell of a rough time with life. Having a newborn is hard work and there are lots of sleepless nights and lots of days you won't get to eat. It drains you physically and mentally for the first few months. Not that having a child isn't one of the most amazing things in the world, but I don't think you would want to throw a brand new boyfriend into the middle of all of that. He'd be running for the hills. Worry about you and taking care of that baby right now hun. The rest will fall into place when it's meant to be.

thanks... im not wanting a relationship really.
i just want to feel like someone would want me.
i know i have alot of hormones right now... its all too much.

If you need anything hun, let me know. Even if you just want to talk to someone who "gets it." Been there, done that. Twice. Recently. I hear you loud and clear. Cheer up though, things will get better.

Focus on you and the needs of the baby. Dating while pregnant is not something I would do reason being there are not good enough candidates out there that are willing to take a pregnant woman seriously. After the baby is about a year old, it will become easier for you to go out into the dating game and possibly meet someone who will be good to you and your baby.

im scared if i wait a long time, i will become disassociative again...
and wont be interested at all. i had to force myself to date again... cause i lost all interest. now look what happened....
geesh.

Its simply bizarre, dating. I have no stories. Pity maybe.

Occupy your time with learning how to be a mother to the child.

You need some time I would say. To reflect.

its just the probably they left me and i need to be loved..its like we feel its our lifeline..trust me with time you'll feel differently and after that baby comes, you will be unconditionally loved and wayyyyy to busy

There is nothing wrong with dating just for companionship. I'm doing that. Make sure you have daytime coffee dates. That makes it very clear that you just want attention and conversation. My method is Lavalife.

There are lots of lonely guys out there who would love to sit and talk with you for a few hours.

Awww.. I am sorry. But I have heard of others who dated while pregnant.. it just takes a special man to be that one.. NOT to say it will be hard.. But just think.. the one that does accept it will be one that you will need to keep! Thats how I would look at it!
Best Wishes sweetie!

ive heard those stories too. i just dont know now.
i would love to have someone come around and be smitten with him...
but then again i dont think i would trust myself or my emotions.
so casual is probably the way to go.
cause i do need to get my mind off of my ex. its driving me crazy.
i dream about him every day.
i think if i just went on a couple of small dates, it would make me feel, well, like something is normal, and like i can be wanted again, by someone other than him. of course he dont want me... but you know