Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am really struggling today. I just don't know if my wife will ever get over the pain I have caused. I think she may still be seeing her affair partner as well. We spoke last night before bed and I really saw and felt the hardness in her heart. I am shattered right now, staring at the cold waves. It is overcast and a perfect day for crying. I wish I understood why life is such a struggle, why we hurt the ones we love, why we destroy our families and marriages in such selfish ways... Everywhere people are hurting. I wish I had the guts to end it, I have begged God to take me, I just don't know how to move on right now. The deep anguish has ripped my heart apart and left it shredded. I am just broken.
There is no hope. All third parties must be out
of the equation totally for any true reconcillation.
Your wife must be willing to be totally transparent
and accountable. It takes two people to work on
The relationship. My ex was checked out and long
Gone. He had made his decision long ago and was
just biding his time.
My ex played me, with his first time around, it Was
not even an emotional affair it was an attachment.
He was helping the girl across the street get sober
and live a sober life that was his excuse. What was
left of our marriage ended with That friendship, he
was more invested and interested in her than Me.
All the faith, trust and respect was gone. I went to
my lawyer and eventually it all petered out And she
moved away. Then he went underground With this
other woman friend from AA, he was helping her too
And she was also a friend of the other girl.
The only way i knew about this budding friendship
Was when he asked for a divorce so he could have a
Better relationship with her. He went quiet for a year,
who the Heck knows what he did. I was working a lot
trying to Help out financially he was busy in AA forming
new Relationships outside the marriage. He had been
Dry for 30 years too.
I take my blame where it is due and i handed his stuff
back To him. I should never have married him in the
First place. Two wounded souls dont make one healthy
One. We seemed to go forward and be okay for years
Until he became unhappy and displeased with me And
then our life became unmanagable and unhealthy.
So the moral of my long winded tale is work on you
And stop beating yourself up. Detach as much as
Possible, recovery and healing is a long slow process.
I have barely scratched the surface of my own recovery.
We often marry what we know and come from. HUGS
Out. This journey is a brutally long and hard. I still
Struggle with no contact and being divorced. Its
One day To a time, i am glad you have a strong
faith in God. HUGS