Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I will admit that I can be a negative person at times but I am really trying to work on that and stay more positive. I am trying to live a life where I don't worry about things as much and I am trying to minimize stress because I am trying to beat my anxiety and high blood pressure.
I have met my match when it comes to negative people. Now that I am back living with my parents my father is driving me nuts! Everyday he has something negative to say and he has the great ability to bring up things that get me irritated.
Example: I am sitting there today relaxing. My Dad asks me "Where is that stuff that (insert the name of my stbx) was supposed to send you?"
I told him let me worry about that stuff, it will come. He continues on and I, in a very nice way, told him to stop bringing that up, it is my problem and not his. (My wife is supposed to be sending me a packet of information that I need for a background thing that I am working on).
I deal with this kind of crap and short little jabs all of the time. He constantly reminds me that I am not employed and I am looking for a job. I realize these things and I am doing the best that I can do to remedy these things so why keep bringing it up and rubbing salt in my wounds (I have asked him not to do this and he just does what he wants to do.
Tonight we got into an arguement because I was sick of his little comments and remarks. I finally told him that he didn't live a perfect life either, he had problems that he had to overcome, and he shouldn't be making comments about the way I eat when I am at least healthy (now) and he is having sugar problems and he isn't keeping his diabetes in check.
I can't wait to find a job and get the flock out of my parents' house!
I have met my match when it comes to negative people. Now that I am back living with my parents my father is driving me nuts! Everyday he has something negative to say and he has the great ability to bring up things that get me irritated.
Example: I am sitting there today relaxing. My Dad asks me "Where is that stuff that (insert the name of my stbx) was supposed to send you?"
I told him let me worry about that stuff, it will come. He continues on and I, in a very nice way, told him to stop bringing that up, it is my problem and not his. (My wife is supposed to be sending me a packet of information that I need for a background thing that I am working on).
I deal with this kind of crap and short little jabs all of the time. He constantly reminds me that I am not employed and I am looking for a job. I realize these things and I am doing the best that I can do to remedy these things so why keep bringing it up and rubbing salt in my wounds (I have asked him not to do this and he just does what he wants to do.
Tonight we got into an arguement because I was sick of his little comments and remarks. I finally told him that he didn't live a perfect life either, he had problems that he had to overcome, and he shouldn't be making comments about the way I eat when I am at least healthy (now) and he is having sugar problems and he isn't keeping his diabetes in check.
I can't wait to find a job and get the flock out of my parents' house!
My dad is the same way. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
Just that this is the only sorry way he has to comunicate with you.
Try taking a walk when he starts up; it will diffuse the situation and keep your blood pressure down.
Try taking a walk when he starts up; it will diffuse the situation and keep your blood pressure down.
((((huggggsssss)))))))
About 9 years ago the tables were turned. My father and mother were legally separated, he was an alcoholic, and he was in very poor health. I moved him in with me, got him off of the alcohol, and straightened him back out. I was there for him when no one else was. Now him and my mother are back together and he is doing okay but his health is beginning to slip again.
I know that he is suffering from depression and his sugar is WAY TOO HIGH!! He will not admit that he is feeling bad and he won't get help or do anything about it. He makes comments like he doesn't expect to live more than 5 more years.
ACK! Just let me do my thing and it will work out. I will find a job sooner or later but I don't want to just jump into the first thing that comes along. I want to be somewhere where I will finally be happy. I am rebuilding my life, not racing to find myself.
My ex and I wanted to get a big old blow boat and sail naked all over the tropics.
Now I need a blow boat and a girl willing to sail with me naked through the tropics.
Big hugs! This is a tough one...it's hard to be treated like a child by your parents!!
3 days into a visit and i'm ready to throttle her and she's frustrated to hell at me. thankfully, when i go up i either keep the visit short or i tuck away to my sisters place for the night... breaks up the visit and makes it bearable.
my parents, like your and i suspect like many, have this idea that despite being 29 and having a family of my own and being a responsible adult with a professional job... somehow i'm still the 14 year old immature idiot who can't figure out logical things...
i love them but i would really dread having to move in with them.