Koko I am sorry. This hurts more than anyone will ever know. I do not know what to say. Releasing the tears I hope gives you some sort of relief because you need it. We do need a group hug. again, I am so so sorry.

So sorry Koko. I feel your pain, and if there's any thing by we can do to help, please let us know. The wife and I just got into another humdinger. Both of us crying. Her telling me I can't understand how much pain she's in. That's rich. And I totally understand what you mean about pretending to be ok. She thinks I should do the same. Ugh. We can't just turn our feelings off like that,. That's what they do.

You have to get your feelings out. I've cried often in my car and on walks with my dog. I wear sunglasses a lot to hide my tears. So what is your usual plan for visitations? Do you usually stay with the kids while they visit with their father?

There's so many dynamics in play here the break up of the relationship, the separation of the kids my heart goes out to you.
I wish there was a button for all of us to just press and either go back in time before the hurt or fast forward to a time when it's doesn't hurt soooooooo much.

koko-I am a man in the same position you are doing and feeling the same way. Its so hard to fathom how we got here. Hang in there!

Samantha my husband and I still live in the same house. He basically announced he wants a divorce but does not have a plan. I told him to stay through February so I can get through my busy season at work but I expect him gone after that. In the meantime we decided we should separate our time with the kids instead of spending time together like we used to. It is so new and confusing.

Thanks all of you for listening. Just letting it out and admitting I'm having a hard time is a start to my recovery I guess....