Bold not crazy. It will either work or it will backfire...It’s refreshing to know that some men really do care that much! Best wishes for a happy ending!

Oh man, if you really want a chance with her you had better make the mystery man disappear ASAP. There's no way she won't see this as dishonest and manipulative. She will figure out it's you or you will hear something from her that the real you has to call her out on, something like that is almost guaranteed to happen. A text relationship is so far removed from an actual flesh and blood relationship that even if she does seem to like fake you, it has zero bearing on real yous chances. Honestly, this kind of deception makes it pretty clear that you don't have much care or concern for your ex, but only want her back to fulfill your needs.

Hmm you might be right. But I really do love her. I just wanted to talk with her again like we use to.

Oh boy no very bad idea. First mistake is tgat she slowly may start to get feelings for this "fake" man. But not for you. Second once she realize it was you she will be pissed off I can tell you that. She will feel betrayed, spied on etc. Stop asap or tell her right now it's you. Stop lying to her. I don't know why you guys broke up. If one if you cgeated this "lie" is a horrible idea. If you broke up cause the live was just hone maybe just go habe a good chat invite het for dinner wow her and be honest. She might give anothet chance.
Also be careful though if she has made clear she doesn't want to be with you respect het wishes and be vety thankfully you have good contact rather than fighting especially if kids are involved.
Anyway your plan is not going to work this way stop it asap before you ruin her trust

Before thinking about possibility of getting back together, you should think about why you guys separated in the first place. I think you are only remembering the good time during the relationship and ignoring the other portion. Its either you separated against your wish (you were happy and had no issue in the relationship, at least in your perspective and you are still holding onto it) or you are fantasizing like someone who hasn’t went through the relationship yet but imagining and dreaming of great possibility together which can be bit odd given you actually went through the relationship and experienced reality of that particular relationship.
You need to ask yourself why sudden change in your view about the relationship (given both party agreed to the divorce), could it be you are feeling lonely and isolated (not really about them but more of your own issue) and/or you are regretting the divorce thinking there is no one better than your ex-partner ?
If you want to get back together realistically, you need to have some deep, sit down conversation with your ex-partner and bring out the issue that caused separation in the first place and express your desire to resolve the issue and get back together as a family and ask her whether she is in the same page as you (have the desire to get back into the relationship with you and willing to put the effort to resolve the issue together).
What you are doing now sounds like waste of time and energy (detouring instead of going straight to the point and looking at the root of the issue) and this could (like other said) only make your ex-partner more confused and even angry at you. Besides, what you are doing now (making simple, light, on the surface conversation) is no different to what you are doing as an ex-partner only difference is she think she is dealing with two different person.
It’s easier to maintain and have fun in light, gliding “only on the surface” relationship and I think she is holding herself in and acting differently (if what you think is true) because she has experienced the relationship in the deeper, more personal level with you and she didn’t like it and it may be her attempt to draw the line and just want to maintain light, easy going relationship with you.
You need to be more serious and realistic in your approach and (before asking her for her point of view on reconciliation) you should deeply reflect whether getting back together (considering all the things you went through with her during the relationship) is what you truly want and have what it takes to play your part in putting time, energy, attention and effort into the relationship.
Once you are certain about what you want, you should approach her and have conversation about it. Ultimately, she needs to have the desire and willing to put the effort in (in the same page as you) for the relationship to work.

I vote for "messed up" and "cruel". This is not a joke you're playing. This is something I could see a 14 year old doing, and I would even advise a 14 year old against it. I would absolutely hate being deceived this way, on such an intimate level. I would not be able to trust you, ever, to be honest and upfront in your communications with me. Ever, ever again.

Come clean, tell her what you did and why. Let her react however she needs to, and respect her wishes if she asks you to back down and away. And like other posters have alluded to, look deep within yourself and start asking and answering serious questions about yourself and this relationship.

No, no, no, no, no. No.

Sorry, you're lying to her.

You already knew that you could love her again.

And you're trying to convince yourself that she can love you again. Sorry, lying isn't going to do it.

Oh and stop dating until you truly get over her.

(((I can talk with my ex husband for 4 hours now. Not that we do it often. It's because we're truly completely OVER each other. We're more like distant relatives that catch up with old friends when we talk. But it's been 10 years.

My ex tried to talk like that early on, and my heart couldn't take it. His could, because he was OVER me.)))

Thank you all so much for the insite esp you obvious but complex.
I'm not doing this for fun or to amuse myself. I Truely do love her and always have. I chased her away in the first place and gave her no choice but to divorce against her will. It's been a year and I've changed a lot and what to start over. This is just a way to be close with her again.

The other thing is I know it's wrong and deceitful and I wish I could be getting close to her another more straight forward way. I feel so bad, she's so good and so trustful and really being open and true with the fake me. That I think that she's actually happy that she met him.

Have you thought of just telling her that you were wrong and would like to see her romantically again?

Honesty can go a long way. Especially if you're willing to address the issues that the two of you had to begin with.

I was gonna wait til feb after Valentine's Day to see if the guy she's dating is still around, right now she's not sure about him and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I wanted to warm up to her a little more. Actually in New Year's Eve when she picks the kids up I wanted to invite them all to dinner.

Go ahead and do that.

And stop dating the other girls.

I will cation you not to let this go on too long. Mostly for your own sake. If her heart has moved on, you're going to get crushed badly.

Best of luck, Patti

You have to stop this if you want any chance to possibly ever reconcile with her. If she finds out that its you lying to her I=under a fake name, she will stop talking to you completely, this is not going to end well, please take all our advice. Romance is awesome, but this is not romantic, its disgusting omg I would be sooooooo mad if my ex would do that, I would never want to see or talk to him again. Just saying don't ruin your chances. Be mature ask her out to dinner and talk.
You said your actions forced her into divorce, I don't kn ow what you did, if you cheated than theres very little hope and you and this fake account will definitely show her you are still a lier, if something else caused her to divorce it all depends what it was, but showing a deceiving side of you this way is not helping your cause, and don't wait till valentine. ask her for dinner with new year good idea and talk. But respect her wishes, she may just see you now as a friend, her love may be gone, accept that if it is.