Its hard when you emotionally having a
Hard time. Even when i was with others
I felt disconnected and alone. I am getting
Better but it takes time to get back to your
Normal then to learn to live life as a single
Again.

Its a challenge, some do the meetup.com its
just People doing stuff together. They say join
Clubs, classes, hobbies that interest you and
That give you pleasure. Get active and exercise
Its good for you mood. Eat healthy and lots of
Self care.

Its not easy i am having a hard time too the big
but is eventually we will heal and be ready To
move forward. It just takes time to move thru the
Grief and feel healed. HUGS

Its tough to find your place again. I know. Youre still trying to figure things out for yourself, let alone how to relate to others again. Everything feels different. But you were not defined in him. Remember that you gave into him and let yourself go. Now, you have to regain that control and allow yourself to get back to you. Do inventory of yourself and figure out how to work on the things that you may want to improve on. Think about goals you may want to accomplish for you and put a plan together to make those things happen. Bring your struggle to God and work on you. You are the most important thing in this. You have to keep telling yourself that. With God you have to believe that it will get better. And also remember that you are not alone. We may not be friends in person but Im here with you girl. *Hugs*

Hey I'm 28 too was with the same guy for 10 years ... the 'love of my life ' who cheated on me and is getting married to the new girl in his life ... I feel the same way going out every week end .. I'm not even a bar kinda girl ... I do it cz I'd do anything rather than staying at home ... plus I feel like - 28 - this is exactly the time I want to be settled - and he had to do this to me - and how will I find anyone ... but few weeks back I think I found peace with my self - god had a lot to do with it - just trust ur self - I'd still suggest you go out - not to find a guy - but cz u like to have fun with yourself - if what makes you feel good is a week end at home just do it - I realized I'm not a clubbing kinda person but instead I go on a trip - c things I haven't .. know things I don't - and just find what makes you be happy about being by yourself - you would be amazed ... and guys will come along ... I hope for the both of us .. but I just learnt not to think about it - cz my perfect life I built for 10 years took a matter of 5 minutes to collapse - the more I think of it - the more I get frustrated and angry and sad and depressed - so I just decided not to - haven't heard a love song for ever -

@realme sorry that happened to you:( Have you figured out how to make new friends? I don't really have many I can just hang with.

Nobody expects you to do anything. You not even forced to start a new relationship. Take time to heal. Take each day as it comes. Seek the Lord in this period he will be able to give you peace.

It's so bad to say but I feel like God has abandoned me. I prayed throughout the relationship to either fix it or end it, and I feel like God did end it but I got really hurt and rejected in the process. He told me we were too different and had been thinking about it for weeks. He is selfish and irresponsible and does drugs occasionally, but there were good times that I don't know how to let go of. I miss his presence and spending time together and just being together. We were so different but still very similiar. We loved being outside or on the water, being silly together, doing random outings or adventures. I'm a little different and he matched that and now I have lost my pal on top of my love. I just want to call him and fix everything. I still feel like it's all my fault.

Hey it really sucks getting over the person we put so much energy & time into but it gets better. I roo sont have many frinds & im not into the bar scene. My Therapist recommend this website Meetup.com
It has book clubs, art clubs just a lot of interesting clubs & groups where you can meet people with similar interests make new friends in your area. It's pretty cool & most activities are free.

Know that God hasn't given up on you
Praying & reading my Bible has really gotten me through my break up. I downloaded the Youversion Bible app & started reading plans that were geared towards healing. I'm currently reading through healing the wounded heart & making wise choices. This is the reading plan/discussion from a few days ago:

"I'm All Alone”

Have you ever felt like you're the only one that is going through your trial.
 You're not alone, even the great prophet of God felt that way.  All he could think about was the bad things that was going on and not what God was doing.

Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.
Psalms 43:5 KJV

I think you answered your own question “Is it OK to be by myself rather than hang out with people I don’t have anything in common. You seem to know yourself well enough that you aren’t willing to spend your weekends doing what you don’t want to for the sake of being with people.
Do you have siblings or nieces/nephews to reconnect with, co-workers or friends to go to movies, concerts, dance group, church with, books you’ve wanted to read, etc. ?? Maybe this would be a good time to sign up for a college class or a community recreation class to learn to play a new sport, volunteer- anything interesting that you haven’t had the time for in the past.
This could be a great opportunity for you to experience another side of life that has escaped you due to the routine and comfortableness of a relationship. It will be lonely but eventually with time, activities will start to be more fun and you will find that your life is more full and you have developed new relationships. Hopefully you will keep us informed as to your progress. My prayers are with you.

Thank you that is very kind. I am very close with my cousin, I try and spend the night at her house a couple Saturday's a month. Her children are very precious to me. And I'm going to try and do one new thing a week. Tomorrow I'm goimg to try and make it to a meetup group and we're signing and sending out christmas cards to troops. My biggest struggle is the weekends. Friday when work was done was my joy to get the whole weekend off with my honey and I'm really missing that. No matter the bad he's still a person I hold in my heart and I'm having sucj a hard time being away from him. I'm so close to giving him my number so I know he can reach me. I changrd my number right away and haven't spoken since the breakup. Yesterday and today have been really hard not texting him.