Have you lied to her? Do you think she is crazy? Why did you break up?

When she confronted me i told her the truth. She hated that. She had a hidden camera in our apartment and said she wanted to record us having sex. But later used it to spy on me because she thought i was cheating. Im loyal as a dog and i would never do that because it hurts so much. All my friends says shes crazy. And my therapist says hes worried if i get back with her

Yeah, sounds crazy to me.

Do u thinks so. She blames me for what i did which was flirt telling one of my friends i had feelings for another person but i changed it because i loved my ex and my ex went through my phone and read the message and got upset. She even got mad at me because i was helping my friend out that just got out of a relationship and was broken. She was my best friend and mu ex thought i was hitting on my best friend

If a relationship has gotten to the point where one partner feels it necessary to spy on the other, whether or not it is warranted, things don't look good.

If she is your ex, it is probably for good reason. I would leave her your ex.

Ya I epulcmt say she's crazy that's a big word. She probably has been very hurt in a previous relationship by being cheated on. Something you did may have triggered her which made her decide to spy on you.
If ur absolutely honest about the flirt thing that she misunderstood than u have 2 options. Either you take het back but be prepared for a long rocky road ahead as she just doesn't trust you. Or just stay exes. This sounds like the better option in ur case.

So why would she be reaching out? Thats what confuses me So much

She even said she woukd forgive me if i cheated. But thats another that confuses me

You sound a bit like you're mistaking guilt and anxiety for love.

Don't go back to her. Never go back ever anyway. It never works.
She's left you, boom. Gone.

If you go back you go back to something broken and stuck together with sellotape. In ten minutes it'll be broken again. Find a new girl. Take your mistakes and learning to the new girl. Start with a nice fresh clean relationship that isn't already a mess.

Chick is clearly off her trolley. You're being dragged around by the excitement and confusion. Learn to get out without understanding. Otherwise you're going to be stuck with cray cray chick for life. She is manipulating you. Probably gave you the kick as a power trip, regretted getting rid of her favourite dog to kick, wants you back to kick you some more.

Just imagine what she's going to do next: probably get pregnant. Then she'll REALLY be able to kick you around.

The thing is she wants you to stop lying to her, This is a big thing, if you don't think you are lying to her and she does, than ur at a stand-still. there is nothing you can do to convince her mind that you are not lying even if ur really telling the truth she will likely not believe you. That's a tough thing to restart a relationship with. for you to not lie, means she wants to control all ur moves, your passwords, she want to always know where you are and with who and she wants to check ur phone. If you would have cheated on her, this would be a normal thing you would have to do to regain her trust, but if you have not cheated on her I would likely run, as that's not the life you want to be in.
I don't know why she contacted you, maybe she feels lonely, maybe she feels regret, maybe she feels she was unfair, maybe she wants you to want her, or maybe she really just loves you, no idea. Her saying I would forgive you if you cheated, is insane, if she has truly been cheated on that's not just something you can forgive, so that's bullshit. It sounds very complicated it it sounds like u were doing fine while broken up, I would leave it broken up if I was you. If you want to see though if things could work out, I would first sit down together and really chat about her and ur expectations, especially what she expects from you to "prove" you're not lying. Good luck

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You sound desperate and needy, you pedestalize her and idealise relationships, which makes a poor judge of character :it makes you vulnerable and easy to manipulate : that’s why you can’t see what everybody (all your friends and therapist ) is seeing: that she is crazy.

You are not grounded and confident enough as a man to objectively call her out on her wrong behaviour : even when she’s clearly at fault you automatically blame yourself for anything wrong. And that is very unattractive to a woman : because on a conscious and/or subconscious level she knows what’s going on : she’s shi’t testing you and you are failing dismally.

Your girlfriend was/is cheating on you :

“ If a woman suspects or accuses you of cheating, she is guaranteed to be cheating on you. Women always project their insecurities onto others :”

“. . . . if i stopped lying to her “, “ . . . She hated that. She had a hidden camera in our apartment . . later used it to spy on me because she thought i was cheating “, “. . .blames me for what i did”, “ . . got mad at me because i was helping my friend out “, “. . my ex went through my phone and read the message”, “. . She even said she would forgive me if i cheated”

Lol, you have the answers to your problem, but you don’t realize it.

Finally to answer your question, “ So why would she be reaching out? That’s what confuses me So much”

This one is easy, it didn’t work out with the other guy she was cheating on you with, or the guy she was hoping to move on to – ‘ monkey branching’.

Since that new plan A, didn’t go as planned, you are now her plan B, until the next best option comes alone. That’s why she' was gaslighting you, making you believe it was your fault that she left you, so that she can always fall back to you as a safety net, since u wouldn’t reject her.

Rarely does a woman end a relationship with her man just to be single, she ends it for another.

What if i left her

how can you leave her if she already left?

No when we broke up i left her

just don't go back. it's over. never go back. It never works. Ever.