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I have been in my relationship with my BF for 15 years since I was 16 now 32.
The last year has been the worst year of my life he cheated with another women , bought flowers , took her to dinner , bought her stuff and he claims that there was no sex involved .... I made him broke it off on February because he kept contacting me and said he wanted to make our relationship work.
Before the split back last September we always had our bank account together once I told him to move I took half of his money because he supported my spending life style for 15 years !!! and told me that I was not his women any longer and he did not care if I ate, had money to pay the mortgage etc... He has been coming around ever since , I contacted him because I miss him and am emotionally attached to him and get extremely depressed and suicidal with out him .
We both miss treat each other verbally and I miss treat him physical to slap him and hit him because I cant believe he left to be with another women after 15 years I have put up with him !!!!! he said he loves me and if I want to make the relationship work he wants his money back that is all he talk about . Our relationship is not the SAME as before our sex life use to be very active up 5 times per week even after 15 years together and now if its twice a week its a miracle since we argue a lot over the money issue.
he said he still loves me but wants me to return his money back... to make this work again and trust him.
I don't know what to do , I don't have any support from friends nor family financially
The last year has been the worst year of my life he cheated with another women , bought flowers , took her to dinner , bought her stuff and he claims that there was no sex involved .... I made him broke it off on February because he kept contacting me and said he wanted to make our relationship work.
Before the split back last September we always had our bank account together once I told him to move I took half of his money because he supported my spending life style for 15 years !!! and told me that I was not his women any longer and he did not care if I ate, had money to pay the mortgage etc... He has been coming around ever since , I contacted him because I miss him and am emotionally attached to him and get extremely depressed and suicidal with out him .
We both miss treat each other verbally and I miss treat him physical to slap him and hit him because I cant believe he left to be with another women after 15 years I have put up with him !!!!! he said he loves me and if I want to make the relationship work he wants his money back that is all he talk about . Our relationship is not the SAME as before our sex life use to be very active up 5 times per week even after 15 years together and now if its twice a week its a miracle since we argue a lot over the money issue.
he said he still loves me but wants me to return his money back... to make this work again and trust him.
I don't know what to do , I don't have any support from friends nor family financially
we are going to couple counseling tomorrow after 9 months trying to get him there
I wrote a response to this yesterday, or so I thought, but I dont see it posted.
It was about him asking for the money back. Basically I said, to me, it isn't about the money per se. Meaning, he wants the money cus he wants or needs money. Its about the fact you just took it without a word about anything. That will throw trust out the window for many and to be honest, I am not sure giving it back, will restore any trust that was broken between either of you.