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GuyInDarkness
Well, here's the story..
Basically my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 4 years.
8 months ago she decided to call it quits, her excuse was that she wanted to live a more single life that she didn't feel commited anymore. I was devastated... During are time apart I learned she sort of saw another guy but they never got official, " side note we did see each other during break up and did hook up while she had this guy friend"
Anyways some months passed and seemed like we were going to stop talking.. But her "guy friend" apparently had to leave to some mandatory school camp " another side note he was younger then her.. And failed high school" so then we start talking more and more eventually after 2 months of reconnecting and bonding we decided to get back together, I told her not to come back if she wasn't 100% serious and commited. So we became official again. It's been 3 months back together things have been better then they ever were. No arguing just happy all around. Although I do still have trust issues with her. During our break I asked her many times if she had slept with "that guy" she told me no it never went further then kissing, but them out of guilt she hinted that they sort of felt up each other. I feel little anger in me knowing that but I got over it. But still something didn't feel right. Last week I got a very disturbing email, it was titled "at least I got some" I thought it was just spam from some site. I clicked on it and there was a link to a video. I clicked in the link. K now it was some sex tape, and it didn't show any faces although some parts you could see males face but not very well. The woman's body seemed very similar to my girlfriends. Very disturbing similar. I'm not 100% sure but just the skin, were some of her moles are. It's almost a perfect match. Everything seems like it could be her. It's been a week me knowing this... I've haven't been really able to sleep. When I talk to her I'm just in shock really, I tell her I'm just not feeling well that's why I'm acting weird. I haven't confronted her with this yet. I don't even know how to bring it up, she swore to me promise me that nothing ever happened like this dying our break, what bugs me is knowing we were hooking up during our break up and of she was hooking up with another guy at same time I didn't want to catch anything. She pleaded with me telling me nothing happen, but this video is just the similarities are shocking and I'm just in a state of I can't believe. I'm so confused on what to do, cause now idk I'm just disgusted. But confused.. I really don't know what to do. My mind is just blank right now.. When I see her I just want to ask and be like wtf. But at same time could I be wrong? She has been trying to earn my trust back.. "Another note this guy she saw just came back to town last week.." I'm just not sure what to do here...
Basically my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 4 years.
8 months ago she decided to call it quits, her excuse was that she wanted to live a more single life that she didn't feel commited anymore. I was devastated... During are time apart I learned she sort of saw another guy but they never got official, " side note we did see each other during break up and did hook up while she had this guy friend"
Anyways some months passed and seemed like we were going to stop talking.. But her "guy friend" apparently had to leave to some mandatory school camp " another side note he was younger then her.. And failed high school" so then we start talking more and more eventually after 2 months of reconnecting and bonding we decided to get back together, I told her not to come back if she wasn't 100% serious and commited. So we became official again. It's been 3 months back together things have been better then they ever were. No arguing just happy all around. Although I do still have trust issues with her. During our break I asked her many times if she had slept with "that guy" she told me no it never went further then kissing, but them out of guilt she hinted that they sort of felt up each other. I feel little anger in me knowing that but I got over it. But still something didn't feel right. Last week I got a very disturbing email, it was titled "at least I got some" I thought it was just spam from some site. I clicked on it and there was a link to a video. I clicked in the link. K now it was some sex tape, and it didn't show any faces although some parts you could see males face but not very well. The woman's body seemed very similar to my girlfriends. Very disturbing similar. I'm not 100% sure but just the skin, were some of her moles are. It's almost a perfect match. Everything seems like it could be her. It's been a week me knowing this... I've haven't been really able to sleep. When I talk to her I'm just in shock really, I tell her I'm just not feeling well that's why I'm acting weird. I haven't confronted her with this yet. I don't even know how to bring it up, she swore to me promise me that nothing ever happened like this dying our break, what bugs me is knowing we were hooking up during our break up and of she was hooking up with another guy at same time I didn't want to catch anything. She pleaded with me telling me nothing happen, but this video is just the similarities are shocking and I'm just in a state of I can't believe. I'm so confused on what to do, cause now idk I'm just disgusted. But confused.. I really don't know what to do. My mind is just blank right now.. When I see her I just want to ask and be like wtf. But at same time could I be wrong? She has been trying to earn my trust back.. "Another note this guy she saw just came back to town last week.." I'm just not sure what to do here...
Atpeacemary
Just wait and see what happens. I know that you have trust issues. But what happened when she was with him, has nothing to do with you. You were not together. She will really have to step up and earn that precious trust. Hugs and prayers my friend.
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