Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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daydczzz 01/23/2017

Can someone enlighten me? I was told by my separated wife that she wants to risk it all to see if she appreciates me by possibly dating a guy she has been talking to. The reason we are separated is because she fell out of love and wanted time to figure out herself. There has been another guy that wedged his way closer and closer with her. I voiced my concerns with both of them and both ignored me. He was a "friend" to me too

jimthzz 01/23/2017

Um, no!

File for divorce. Do NOT agree to be Plan B.

Either she's in or she is out. Actually, her even broaching the subject means she is out.

Harden your resolve consult with a lawyer, starting protecting your finances.

Do NOT be intimate with her anymore, get tested for STDs.

onedayatatimeforme 01/23/2017

Wow no way jose, it sounds like she wants a free cheat card while keeping you on hold on the sideline waiting and you are worth more than that as as far as him also being a friend to you .. that friend should know better and should respect you to not be involved with your wife separated or not in the eyes of the law you are still married so she is in the eyes of the law having an affair which is adultery which you if you wanted to can use in your favor for a quick divorce. In some states the spouse can sue the other person if proven. I think she has proven her intention to you. As hard as it may be you need to move on and forward you will find you are not only better off but happier. Good luck

Alone 01/23/2017

Wow. Interesting she told you. Move forward with legal advice. You can always stop it, but don't sit back while she tries out someone else. What does she expect you to say, okay? It's not okay, it's selfish.

hope123 01/23/2017

I agree with what everyone says. You do not deserve to be plan B! You are too special to be plan B. Plus if you allow her to make you plan B and she gets back with you, she may just take advantage of you during the relationship because she knows she an get back with you whenever she likes. This means she can possibly cheat later on in the future or do the same thing. Don't fall for her trap. The trust with her is broken and it is hard to build that trust with someone once she does something like this. You will find someone who will appreciate you more. Hang in there!

STex 01/23/2017

NO, tell her she has made her choice and so have you. Unbelievable.

jadef1 01/23/2017

Let her go it's hard , going threw a divorce my self .

CKellie 01/23/2017

No! That is beyond selfish of her. It sounds like she thinks she has you no matter what she does. That is awful. I am not for divorce and am struggling to hold on to hope myself as my husband has filed, but as others have said, you don't deserve to be a plan b.

SBC1238 01/23/2017

Oh hellllll no. That is not fair don't take that!

shyguy 01/23/2017

I agree with everyone 110%. She doesn't deserve you, you will find who you're meant to be with. As hard as it is to move on, I think that it might be time to. Good luck with what ever you choose to do.

ripped_my_heartout 01/23/2017

Move on. Get rid of her. I was plan B. Actually think I was plan D or E. wait for no one.

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