Thoughts and prayers are with you. You mentioned training --- is he in the military? I am thinking maybe he is trying to break free to keep you both from worrying while you are apart? And the comment he made about making things better and stronger later was intended for when all is done?

Honestly, I would be confused too. Like you said, he does care. Maybe he wants you to have a few more good memories to hang on to? (To leave things on a better note) But it seems to me that may make it even harder when these days are up.

Hoping you can find some strength and guidance (and peace) as you try to sort this out. (Not sure if you are religious or not, but they say when things are too much to turn them over to God and ask for what you need... I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and eventually leads us a little further on our journey here,)

Love and hugs, Kim

It seems like he wants your company while he's waiting to leave. You probably have a connection to him that makes you feel that you definitely want to be in his company. His intent on leaving you suggests that he doesn't want to repair your marriage, and it'd take more than 8 days to do so if he felt otherwise. For yourself, you can spend this time with him and maybe gain a bit of closure. Shutting him out completely may be harder on you. Maybe have hime help you figure some ways to start reinventing yourself? If he cares, he will help you. Sorry for this situation you're in. Hugs

My ex-husband was courteous, friendly, caring up until the day the divorce was final. The only problem was the love was all gone. Years of mutual unhappiness, going through the motions and putting up a good front just didn't cut it any more. We both cared for each other. Hell, I thought I still loved him. But what I thought was "love" and "wanting to be with him" was really fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of being on my own for the first time in my life.

I shed a lot of tears, grieved the loss of my marriage and dreams of house and home and family with him, spent hours on the phone with my mother and my sister, prayed, journaled and prayed some more. And I just got on with my life. Within a few months, I realized that in the process of getting on with life, the hurt lessened, I didn't really miss him.

He went on the re-marry, as did I. I have been with my current husband for 18 years. Life does go on when you let it.

He came and laid down with me and hugged me as I cried ... he asked me to take a shower ... that it would make me feel better... he asked me if I wanted him to take a shower with me (we always showered together on the weekends) I said yes.... he washed my body and washed my hair .. he held me as I cried ... he helped me get dressed ... he said he just wanted to comfort me... he said he would leave me alone if I asked him to... I told him it hurts and feels better to have him next to me.... I asked him if he loved me .. he said yes... and I said not enough .... he’s leaving soon and all I want is for this nightmare to go away .... thank you for your comforting words .. hugs

Hey.. justjackie28.... I appreciate you for sharing your story... I believe your husband truly cares about you deeply and loves you however ... It seems y’all probably aren’t in love anymore ....because of the unhappy marriage ... and him moving to Europe is really going to complicate Everything even more especially if y’all are already having problems... It seems he doesn’t want to String you along and make you resent him ..... while he’s away and there no tell what he might do ...., you and him deserves to be happy ... you only have one life and y’all should be happy with out or with a partner ..... You probably should make the most of the less today with him to probably get the closure your seek ........ I am sorry you have to go through this .... xoxo

The last eight days*

My first marriage I loved her, we drifted apart during the war, we were away from each other far too long. I came back and she had changed so much. I loved her as a person, She was a great woman.
I packed my clothes and dog and gave her everything in the divorce, including money. I do wish things had not collapsed in on themselves. But we drifted apart. She since then remarried, but still keeps my name.
We tried everything including counseling to keep the marriage alive. We were just too different to be able to enjoy being together. I was sad it ended but we both moved on and healed.

Sorry Jackie.
I am so sorry We are here for you ,Relationships are bitter sweet,I just dont want you to forget about the brilliantly beautiful person you are smothered under the hurt, My prayer is to pull you out of the hurt, Listen to Yard_Eggs, She has been through it as all of the panel that has advised - one thing in common- evidence that life goes on- it is how fast you get back on board-
The pain you feel does not have to win,
The pain you feel can be counter attacked with self nurturing unapologetic acts that you get up and get s--- done, Like HE IS,
Now in this moment you make a BIG CHOICE, If you fall into despair- you run the risk of abandoning self,
ABANDONING SELF..................................................(..has severe consequences)
Please listen to this- this is your Inner You Higher Self talking to you,
You are worth at this moment as you feel your heart hurting- getting on with life- go out shop, force yourself to smile as you do it, be bold in it, Your higher self has your back, It is built for this, It will go to bat for you, It will remember how you had its back and you chose not to curl up and not let higher self live, love you through this,
It is not that you feel like crap so you drop into despair, It is doing YOU along with that crappy feeling knowing that you are bigger than it, Believing that the Universe has Great Gifts for you,
Sometimes a spouse leaves because they know the Love you have for them they simply cant match it, they are not capable,
What if the Universe wants to pair you up with someone of your caliber that the Universe sees fit?
There are secrets that the Universe holds and yes it has all to do with peoples energy as well.
Focus on you as my whole post' focus was on you. It is that simple,
Force yourself through, In turn the Universe and your Inner Higher Self will release all that is non beneficial to you and match your high energy and make this energy return to you ten fold, This is how it works,!
Hugs Love Peace Abundant Light to Guide you!!!.

I can relate to that, my husband asked me for a divorce a couple days ago and then just left. We have two kids, 5 and 2 months, yes a new baby! Things have been crazy lately and he hasn't been coming home, so I asked him what was going on? If there was someone else, and he lost it. He told me he wanted out and he hated me, so he packed a bag and left. He left me with the house, dogs, kids, everything! I'm about to break, it is all so much, mowing the lawn, cleaning, breakfast, lunch, dinner, baths, bedtime, not sleeping, the new dog is crazy, I just don't know what to do. I have asked him to go to counseling and work things out but he just keeps telling me he doesn't know. Then he wont answer me about anything, I am completely lost, and don't know what to do. I don't want a divorce, and I'm trying to do everything in my power to save this but I can't alone. I just don't understand how he can just up and leave everything not just me but the kids, and house. I could never! I just want to give up.

See a lawyer today. You will have time to grieve but you need to know your rights.

My ex is exactly doing the same thing. She even told me that she wants me to have good night. I honestly feel that it hurts more when there’s contact. I strongly suggest to stay away or cut any communication sooner because it stop you from letting go and moving on. You will going to keep holding on and hoping for more, which is what my current ex is doing to me right now. It’s really hard and painful detached. I suggest to try to write on a journal and/or talk to someone. Don’t go to him even though he’s like your painkiller. Trust me. I’ve been there before. All of us broken needs to go through these whole process of picking ourselves up even though we don’t know how or where to start.

Be patient to yourself. That’s all we can do for now.

You’re right .. but it’s true... the only comfort I want is his arms around me to say everything is ok... I love him .. he’s leaving tomorrow for a school he has to go to .. then Italy after that for two years .... I won’t have a choice after tomorrow... but I’m really struggling today ... watching him pack is unbearable... thank you for your advice ... maybe I’ll try to start writing in a journal ... daily strength has kind of been an outlet as well ...