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Id like to hear your opinions on my situation - any advice welcome
My ex and I decided to take some time apart in September. Long story short, we kept in contact - with long silences I between but he insisted he needed time apart to sort through his issues.
In December I confronted him, lay it all out and gave the ultimatum to which he said he couldn't commit the way I wanted. Hard to hear but I accepted this and we wished each other well, and I began to pick up my life and move on.
He began emailing me (when I had told him to cut contact in order for us to move on) with short, almost silly messages to which I didn't reply. This happened for weeks until I finally emailed him to say don't contact me again we are over. He tried to blame me for shutting HIM out, and then once I told him to let go he said he loved me and missed me and made a mistake.
I didn't get back to him after this. Within days of this I find out he's been seeing another woman on and off since November. To me I consider this cheating. We had not resolved to be apart and he was still trying to strong me along and asking me to give him time. I am so disgusted at him for the way he's treated me. I'm so angry and hurt and feel like he tried his best to disrespect me.
My question is - do I contact him via email to let him know how I feel? A part of me feels this is important to process my emotions. I do not need any explanations or response from him but just to allow myself to address it rather than let it just be accepted? Should I do this to finally let go and be free or just leave it and try and move on without that closure action?
Many thanks for reading I really appreciate it.
My ex and I decided to take some time apart in September. Long story short, we kept in contact - with long silences I between but he insisted he needed time apart to sort through his issues.
In December I confronted him, lay it all out and gave the ultimatum to which he said he couldn't commit the way I wanted. Hard to hear but I accepted this and we wished each other well, and I began to pick up my life and move on.
He began emailing me (when I had told him to cut contact in order for us to move on) with short, almost silly messages to which I didn't reply. This happened for weeks until I finally emailed him to say don't contact me again we are over. He tried to blame me for shutting HIM out, and then once I told him to let go he said he loved me and missed me and made a mistake.
I didn't get back to him after this. Within days of this I find out he's been seeing another woman on and off since November. To me I consider this cheating. We had not resolved to be apart and he was still trying to strong me along and asking me to give him time. I am so disgusted at him for the way he's treated me. I'm so angry and hurt and feel like he tried his best to disrespect me.
My question is - do I contact him via email to let him know how I feel? A part of me feels this is important to process my emotions. I do not need any explanations or response from him but just to allow myself to address it rather than let it just be accepted? Should I do this to finally let go and be free or just leave it and try and move on without that closure action?
Many thanks for reading I really appreciate it.
My suggestion is to write him a 'good bye' letter & tell him everything you like and don't like about him as well as what you will and won't miss about him.
Do NOT send it!!!!! Instead, burn it. Create a 'funeral-like' ceremony around the burning.
You may have to write & burn more than one letter, but that's ok. Do it as many times as you need to.
~healing hugs~