You've done the right thing, not living together is totally the right thing, just think of the impact on the children if the abuse was in front of them or if they see what it's doing to you.

the key thing is you said "at one time you loved" good sign that at one time, no longer, don't let his actions eat you up, you're the bigger person, you're caring for the kids, you're looking after yourself.

YOU are what matters, and the kids, not him, ignore what's happening there, be you and move on.

you made the right move and don't look back, don't be looking for what you had, it's over, do what makes you happy and move on, you've done so well so far!

I hope you are in alanon and therapy to Help yourself
cope, heal and grow, none of this is easy to move thru
And to face.

I know with myself i needed Lots of help, love and support
on my journey plus i went to divorce care multiple times to
help with All my grieving. Time does take time and no contact
will help a lot too, HUGS

Anytime you take yourself and your children out of a potentially harmful or dangerous situation it is ALWAYS a good decision! I acknowledge you for doing that for yourself and your children. It's not so easy to do. I hear you are hurting and in pain knowing that your husband is in another relationship and going to have a baby with her. What you are feeling is normal. You are grieving the loss of your relationship and marriage. Give yourself sufficient time to heal and recover. Take one day at a time and create a support system for yourself through this. Someone that is emotionally healthy, that you can trust, and is available when you need them. Take care of YOU! Nurture yourself; get plenty of rest, eat healthily, exercise regularly, meditate and or pray or go for walks in nature. GO out with a girlfriend for coffee or a movie or dinner. Find a new hobby, craft, take a photo class or something you've always wanted to do. This is some time for you to get in touch with you and let go of focusing on your husband.

Hang in there. You will feel better over time. Time does heal wounds. Allow your wounds to heal. Forgiveness is a big part of your healing process. Forgive your husband. Forgiveness doesn't mean what he did is okay or that you forget. It means you give the emotional wounds to a higher power to take care of for you.

Blessings to you. I will pray for you.

You did the right thing for sure!! Why stay with someone who is abusive? I get it!! Really I do. We're all here because we either missed the signs or we chose to ignore them in hopes that things will change. But what I have learned over my 12 years of misery, is that these kinds of things don't just change, they have to be sorted out like laundry, washed and dried. And we all know that laundry doesn't put it self in the washer, you have to do it. You did the right thing, and pretty soon this woman will probably try to give you and call, text, or e-mail and find out what the hell is wrong with this man and how did you deal with it. Boy I wish I could call my ex husbands first wife and ask her what really happened. It may be a lot to take in because all you wanted was a family, like every other woman in America. But reality has set in and yo realized that the dream you once had was just that, a dream. You wake up and it's gone. But was that dream really a good dream anyway? You said in your post "the man you once loved" meaning you don't have those same feelings for him. So you know the answer to all of this. What I personally don't want from this group is a bunch of men or women trying to convince me to stay, or telling me it's not that bad, when deep down they know it's pretty crummy. I want the truth. I want real, raw and honest opinions and advice. I am in therapy and I hope that you are too because it is really therapeutic to just talk to someone and let it all out, someone who has heard it all. I wish you the best and just know that you are not alone. You made the right choice. Leave him with that woman because soon enough she will figure it out for herself....if she doesn't become one of those news stories.