You may never get closure. My ex went from telling me he couldn't live without me to basically not giving a damn. I found out after the fact that he was texting me about how much he loved me when he was out on a date with his current girlfriend. She is 18 years younger than him and we were together for ten years. I'll never be able to understand but I have to accept it. Looking for closure only makes things harder.

Why do they do this? Why can't they just man up and say "i dont love you anymore" and let us just go!

It's not just men doing this. My wife was talking about buying a new car and having kids two weeks before asking me for a full-blown divorce, out of the blue. No "I need time", no marriage counseling... just all the way to irreversible divorce within seconds! Or at least it was seconds to me...

We must try to understand that, in many cases, they may have been struggling in their own heads with their falling out of love, for years. They may have been trying to get back to love us, and those shows of affection were their way of doing so. Finally, they just gave up one day; they admitted to themselves that they can't succeed in getting back. They were playing games, surely, but they may not have been aware of it, and they were playing with themselves too.
Of course there are some truly selfish and wicked people out there, but I don't think that's the majority. Most people are just confused, immature, imperfect human beings, trying to sort their own mess out and making plenty of mistakes along the way.
Although these sudden unexpected departures make it extremely difficult for us to get closure, we need to learn that closure must (and WILL) come from within us anyway.
We need to understand that they own themselves. Neither we own them (to make them take us back or give us the closure we so yearn), nor they us (to make us feel worthless or like we cannot go on in life unless they allow us by giving us closure).
I understand why my wife left me. I do not understand/accept why she won't come back, but that belongs to her, not to me. And while she thinks that I'm not worth a single additional day of her life, I happen to think that I am.
I don't know whether you feel any guilt for your own actions or lack thereof, or if they just left you because they were flimsy men who could not resist a younger face. It's not really relevant, it says everything about them and their fears, weaknesses or unresolved childhood/past-relationship issues, while saying nothing about your worth as a human being or as a desirable, wonderful, caring, and fun partner.

Even when your loved one suddenly tells you they are not in love with you no more doesn't give you closure. Having difficulties finding closure myself, it took me focusing on my own inner closure to find something that resembles peace within or closure.

In my case I had learn to accept loving someone is a choice and my ex wife has chosen not to and I had to brace myself for the hurt that came with accepting this sad truth and decided to work on becoming the best version of myself.

I am not free of pain and sadness but I am slowly making progress one day at a time. You will surprise yourself once you come to terms with what is. Hope you find your own inner closure.

Not saying it would be any easier if he told me he didn't love me, but it would be something. He has not said anything at all! I cannot just drive up there right now to get my stuff as i am clear across the country from my home. I just want him to say SOMETHING!

I understand how you feel, @Montanagrl.
You feel you deserve better, and you are right.
Eventually he will quite likely open up, but right now he's going through his own grieving process in his own way. Going full no-contact is a good idea in any case where reconciliation is not an option, which is my wife and I are doing (although the no-reconciliation part is entirely on her side).
Try not to expect anything from him, it will only hurt you. It's unfair to you.