Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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basnime 01/09/2017

It has been a hell of a ride over here. The anti depressants are kicking in. I've met a guy friend that I've been hanging out with and sure enough stbx came by today. We were intimate and I'm so confused. My guy friend says it's just his man radar sensing someone else around. This is quite the roller coaster ride and I want off.

i suspect stbx is loneky and whatever plan he was working on is not what he thought it would be. After all this pain he caused, honestly I am afraid of him. The trauma and the turmoil he caused the boys.

mirandac 01/09/2017

A new relationship in a volatile enviroment
Is a recipe for disaster especially for you
And your children.

With my ex, i kept it as mature as possible in
Every way. Divorce and separation can be the
worst Rage filled time. I had rage myself And
i had a very hard time coping. It Took a lot of
work to get it cooled down. HUGS

basnime 01/09/2017

Sigh.....,.,, I'm so lonely

mirandac 01/09/2017

Are you in therapy yet? Support groups?

Some people can not go Without being
in a relationship. If you are Fearful of your
STBX you are playing with Fire. HUGS

basnime 01/09/2017

Yes started therapy last week. He advised me not to date as well. Fearful because this has been hell with no end in sight. Thank you for your advice...

Koko 01/10/2017

How did you meet this guy? I am always surprised when people move on so quickly after breakup/divorce. I am emotionally over my Stbx but not ready for dating.

Try to be happy with yourself and your kids first would be my advice! It gets lonely but my kids lift me up with their positive energy.

basnime 01/10/2017

I met him at a new years day party. I am not moving on at all... He is a band-aid over my stitches, just sitting there. My heart is healing........so slowly. Recovering from this trauma is surreal.

jojored 01/10/2017

Do yourself a favor to quicken the recovery - don't be intimate with stbx ever again. That just serves to deepen the cut, which you have to stitch up again. Unless you meant you were intimate with this guy friend, which is, well you know, not a good idea, and just a quick temporary fix.

basnime 01/10/2017

It was the stbx jojored. It was really a bad idea. He is not the same person I married. I am slowly finding this out.

mirandac 01/10/2017

Detaching while still being intimate is almost
impossible. It keeps the connection alive and
Keeps you hooked and confused.

There are many of us that still had sex during
Bad times trying to save or not make a decision
On the marriage yet. The big but is if a divorce has
Been Declared and its on the table, sex is not a
good Or emotionally healthy idea for you. HUGS

jojored 01/10/2017

Well, live and learn. I'm sure that'll not happen again. My stbx is pretty gross these days (up from mildly gross previously), so I would never ever in a million years, even if the existance of humankind depended upon it, entertain those ideas. Is it really that hard to shower on the weekends?

lonelyinside 01/10/2017

Lol jojored! (Wow, first time I laughed at something since finding this site.) Yeah, I would imagine showering would help. ;-) (And wow, first light hearted comment I've made since d day a couple of weeks ago.) I know you probably didn't intend it that way, but thanks for making me smile and feel for a minute that there are things to smile or laugh about in this world. It has been a very, VERY long time since I've felt that way.

basnime 01/10/2017

Yes I laughed too! I love this group. Hate that I'm here but you guys are great. I swear I'd have a party and invite you all.

jojored 01/10/2017

I have been accused of having a dry sense of humor, with a touch of sarcasm. It serves me (and hopefully others) well. Good night to all.

mirandac 01/10/2017

I guess I am not too funny:)

I do have a sense of humor except about
the ex and my divorce. HUGS

Koko 01/11/2017

Ahhh that makes more sense. But yes being intimate with anyone is probably a bad idea at this point. Fortunately or unfortunately no one wants me that way at this time. My Stbx doesn't even look at me when we speak. It makes it easier but also makes me feel so undesirable.....

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