Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Hello. About a year ago I found out my husband was having an affair. We ended up getting divorced and he is still involved with the person he had an affair with. I am so depressed, I have no self confidence or self worth left. I have been going to therapy since this happened, I've been seeing a psychiatrist and put on medication. I don't feel any better. I'm still extremely lonely and fear that I will never find someone else. Seeing my ex with his mistress breaks my heart all over again. I just can't get over how much effort he puts into her that he never put into me. We have a two year old daughter together so I still have to see him twice a week to exchange our daughter. I don't know what else to do to get me out of this funk. Any suggestions?
How to increase self esteem (from www.mind.org.uk)
1. think about what is affecting your self esteem
2. avoid negative self talk
3. connect with people who love you
4. learn to be assertive
5. set yourself a challenge
6. focus on your postives
7. take care of yourself
8. get support if things get too much
That's an ok "to-do list", but I like this one (from m.active.co) better - 8 healthy ways to boost your confidence:
1. stop worrying about other's opinions **
2. focus on your strengths **
3. tackle your fears ** this is a huge "big one"
4. treat yourself as a friend **
5. change your outer image
6. straighten your posture
7. use visualization **
8. get moving - exercise
Some of these suggestions address the role physical activity plays in self esteem, but the big suggestions (I put * to signify the "big ones") are critical to improving self esteem.
Please, they always put in effort in the beginning. It will peter out eventually. You are free.
Heres what I do every day when I feel crap bubbling up( You have to find a
way to gain control over your mental.You can release these painful emotions
and affirm while you are doing this that you are vibrant and a lovely person.
You are not the one wrong in these circumstance and so you release your husband,you submit to the will of the Universe,It is not beneficial for you to be attached to him in any way emotionally except for your child,Release him and wish him well on his journey,Accept it in your Innermost soul.You may ask well how the heck does this happen-Well truly I say you must release the memory of him,any thoughts of reconciling,any soul tie Release it to the Universe.Practice every day. The Universe then will respond to you knowing that you are ready, It will respond by filling you with Light and Positivity
and eventually you will be purged ,cleansed of any residue and your Inner
Child will be nurtured, will be restored back to Wholeness,
You see, you can have wholeness while seeing these things before your eyes.You have to have to have to Do The Work to Release this Past Event
so you can make room for Healthy events and only when you do this will you be assured that you can entertain healthy relationships with Yourself and with a Significant others,
So what I do for Any Negative Energies that creep in,or near me I release
and I release again and again and again, I do it lovingly and then Love and Light will be restored to me through me and For me.
Also one thing I learned in Quantum Freedom Healing is to look at events that have presented itself in a negative way as not happening To me but happening For me. For me because negative events have a way of exposing
spots within ourselves that need to be healed eg: past traumas,childhood
traumas ,self victimization,self value issues etc.
Use this time to heal and self partner and self nurture yourself back to
WHOLENESS, HUGS XO