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I'm having a hard time right now. Here is a journal entry I made many months ago. I needed to remind myself of this again........
Change is inevitable No matter what we try to do, we cant evade it. No matter whom you are. You can embrace it or fight it. It does not matter, it still will occur. Fight it and it can destroy you. It will eat at you to very core of your fiber. Embrace it, develop it, steer it, learn from it, be positive of the outcome. You may not like it; at least thats how you may feel at the time. Change, many times is unforeseen, the unexpected you never saw coming. Then there is change that we prepare for, you know it will happen at some point in your life. Be grateful for yesterday; that change is completed. Live today, look around; change is happening before your eyes. As for tomorrow, embrace it, prepare for what you can. The rest of tomorrows change, you will need to accept it. Accept all your flaws, forgive all your flaws, you are human. If you think, you are different for the person next to you, you are not. We are all dealing with change that life is teaching us. Believe yourself!
Change is inevitable No matter what we try to do, we cant evade it. No matter whom you are. You can embrace it or fight it. It does not matter, it still will occur. Fight it and it can destroy you. It will eat at you to very core of your fiber. Embrace it, develop it, steer it, learn from it, be positive of the outcome. You may not like it; at least thats how you may feel at the time. Change, many times is unforeseen, the unexpected you never saw coming. Then there is change that we prepare for, you know it will happen at some point in your life. Be grateful for yesterday; that change is completed. Live today, look around; change is happening before your eyes. As for tomorrow, embrace it, prepare for what you can. The rest of tomorrows change, you will need to accept it. Accept all your flaws, forgive all your flaws, you are human. If you think, you are different for the person next to you, you are not. We are all dealing with change that life is teaching us. Believe yourself!
Believe yourself!
Thinking this way, it's not so much that it makes it easier...but somehow it helps calm me.
Best I can explain it, is from a story in one of Pema's book. Long story short, a monk is on a road and on the road is a chained up mad, vicious dog. The dog is trying to get loose to attack. The dog does get loose and charges them. All others freeze in fear and the monk turns around and charges the mad dog. The dog is so surprised, it turns around, tail between it's legs and runs away.
When I accept the fear and the pain, it's still there - but I'm not putting extra effort into fighting the fear and pain.
I understand where your at...I'm there too. At least for today. We will learn and if you can't believe in yourself. Let a friend beleive in you. .. I Believe in You....
Although I did get a chuckle at your dog story, cxh, I am a dog trainer and I have had that happen to me and although it is NOT AT ALL recommended, it has worked for me in that situation. Wish I could scare away my fears and sadness so easily. Physical pain is far easier to bear.
I wrote in my journal a few days ago about my Dragonfly "fetish"...I recently learned that those Dragonflies, that I so dearly love, supposedly signify Change and being Happy with it.
That was a huge comfort to me. Made me love them even more.
Some things are nice to just let ride...but if nothing ever changes, you might as well be dead.