Yes, you will get over him but maybe never forget. Hopefully you learned from your experience with a cheater and abuser. Healing vibes your way...

Hugs!

It does hurt, Time will heal you though.

From looking at your profile, your divorce isn't the only life altering thing you are dealing with. There is nothing like a good counselor. If you don't feel as though you've made enough progress with the one you were/are seeing, please look around for a new one.

I'm sorry for all your pain and wish you the best.

I have always hated that term: "time heals all wounds"...ugh...

I was broken to pieces until people here lifted me and eventually, I was smiling, then laughing and then taking the necessary healthy steps to gain momentum in the voyage of self discovery.

The key is to discover you. When you have been in an environment where you were insuslted and deameaned, you tend to lose touch with whom you are. Love yourself by taking proactive steps.

We will walk with you but you have work to do for yourself...free yourself of abuse, seek advice, counseling....life.

Once you do these things, you will realize that the stupid little termm that used to irritate me, becomes your truth. Time will heal but if you put your part in it.

Hugs and strength to you...

I know its cliche' but it really does take time.. try doing more things for yourself... when he crosses your mind start reading a good murder mystery.. (helps me alot) .. or crank up the stereo and play some fun music... it does get easier... I never thought it would but it really does..

ad to echo everyone else here... counseling helps A TON! I dont know what kind of a mess I would be without mine...

Good Luck!

It has been 2 years since my divorce and I am totally over him. I realize that I DO NOT want a man like him in my life. We were together 15 yrs and he did some very hurtful things to me but I am over coming that each day. I know that I am worthy of a good life and that I deserve to be happy and that I AM a good person.

I hope you are able to overcome this hurdle in your life now and be able to move on.

Hugs to you....You are Worth it!!!!!

I wish that i could help you. LOL I sometimes feel the same way. I just don't want to have the feelings that I have for him. It's sick because I hate him for hurting me like he does. But when it all boils down, I just wish that things could be like they were when I was "unaware" But i thank God for clarity. He is a filthy man.

You have to learn how to fill your head with thoughts of yourself. You have to learn how to make yourself happy. You need to value yourself - he didn't value you.

I was married to the current stbx for only 3 years and i finally decided it was ending, but i'll even admit that i do think of her sometimes. It's only natural when a person has been a signifigant part of your life. Just takes time. hell, i've been with my gf now for 4 months and she's going thru a divorce as well. we often discuss topics regarding our stbx's for different perspectives or somertimes even just to vent.
Unfortunately, they share a child so she has no choice to have contact with him whereas i don't have that problem.

Have you tried counseling?

yes was in counseling for many years, but moved back to GA last January and no where here will see me with the insurance I have. So, I am in need of the counseling to continue, but unable to find a place to see me and surely do not have the funds to pay for it. We are not even able to eat every day here. This living hell started withmy son dying,..

It's called the comfort zone. You two were together for so long that being without him reminds you ONLY of all the fun times..

Like Z said.. I hated hearing it myself as well.. But time will heal whatever you are feeling and going thru right now. Trust me.. its tough hearing it... but it's the truth.. Memories will still be there.. but you will be able to eventually move on...

Could you perhaps speak with a member of the clergy?

Also check out your county mental health board. They might be able to put you in touch with a counselor for a reduced fee or perhaps free.

Hugs!