in moments of weakness, step back and occupy your mind with a book, a funny movie, dance, sing. Live minute to minute when you have to. take solace in knowing it does get better

It's the insecurity I can't see her with sm1 else it's killing me I've deleted her number uninstalled each n every social media app but the thoughts of her being with sm1 else ! Can't see her kising sm1 else I just can't

There is no easy way except thru it and
One day to a time. Get into therapy as a
Good first step to helping yourself. Many
Times it just eases up your mind and they
are More like a guide.

I love going to my therapist and Always feel
Much better afterward. Join a break Up group,
get proactive for yourself. Many People work
out or exercise a lot to destress. Cry if you need
to, i did for four months after he left.

Go on meds if you really need them, they just
Numb you up is the problem. You have to move
Thru the grief and feel your feelings and emotions
And they are often very uncomfortable ones, HUGS

5 the day n four months long way to go

Rejection is a hard one to work thru and most
on here Understand that all too well. My ex left
Me for his friend after being married for 30 years.
HUGS

once you're able to shift the focus to you, and away from her, things get immensely better, challenge yourself to do so. accept that the past is the past and that we can't make people do things, what we can do is make inner change in ourselves. that inner change brings inner peace and attracts people to us. so whatever your motivation is, push to do things for you. counselling helps in doing so whenever you're stuck. there is know shame in asking for help.

Thank you for Ur suggestions and support time will heal the wounds but I don't think everything inside me might be same

they won't be the same, they will be better, for now take it in trust whether you choose to believe or not

I'm in the same boat. One minute I'm ok then the next I'm literally crying my eyes out. Everything and I mean everything reminds me of him

This is a good place for u to get help feel free to vent in its good to speak with people who feel the same

for me things changed the day I said to myself that the only way to be happy is to take action to be happy. dwelling on things didn't make change, i did. i broke the cycle of my own self pity and researched the crap out of what i could do. some of which I've started to post to my journals. i fought through, sought counselling and built myself up as i knew i was the only one who could do that for me. occupying my time proved huge in moving forward. i also found that i felt worse when i tried to think about fifty things at once, especially if they were all burdens. you eat an elephant one piece at a time

great point @Guy321 never underestimate the power of venting and being listened to. I wish i knew about this forum when i first started my journey. as well don't think this is the only avenue of support - find local counselling and support groups, read, research and make new friends or reconnect with old ones

Thank you definitely i do smthing like that

one more thing - celebrate small successes. one small positive moment in the day, one smile, one lesson learned, one new friend found, one new method of support - baby steps lead to running, but stop to smell the roses along the way as they push you forward and make the steps back seem less significant

Thank you for support and suggestions