Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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sweets81 09/15/2017

This is the worst feeling in the world.. I had my appointments and the results are I now have to take zoloft and xanax abd while he gets to live happily ever after with the new family he is starting.. What the hell did I do to deserve this? I gave that man my everything, my life, all my time down to my last dime. I feel like I can't breath, why do I have to endure all the suffering? My kids have to suffer cause mommy just can't seem to pull it together!! Everything he ever said and did was a fucking lie! I have attack after attack and I just can't take it no more, when does it end? God why me, I need to know now why me why is it me that you chose to suffer

klm1976 09/15/2017

I'm sorry, I asked God the same thing last night after a blow up with my significant other. While I don't have answers I can relate it's so hard to breathe at times, I cannot catch my breathe more often than not. My heart literally feels broken and I cannot believe this person who is clearly toxic is controlling my thoughts, some people handle this type of thing with ease, but not me. Maybe it's the rejection maybe it's the fact that I was so blinded, I really don't know,.

The antidepressants aren't permanent, and you may feel better sooner than you realize.. I'm sorry you are gong through this. I pray it gets better for you. Read, cuddle your kiddos, immerse yourself in their lives, I am going to do my best to follow this advice because this feeling is the worst. Last night I saw an old show where the main character endures a break up, the advice she was given is it will hurt until one day it just won't. I pray that one day for you and I is soon.

sweets81 09/15/2017

Thank you @klm1976 Believe me I'm praying!! The hurt gone stop cause I'm about to make myself feel a whole lot better for the moment and he will feel my pain!! You have a great evening!!

Ghostdancer 09/15/2017

Yep stay strong for yourself first, why? Well you want to be the best mom possible and as a caregiver to my adult son I know you can't do that as an injured caregiver. It will empower you and your kids with a valuable lifelong lesson, you're in this world for some reason, make it a good one.

Saphiersky 09/16/2017

You are a strong independent woman, and your medications and issues do not define who your are as a person. You are beautiful! :)

goodkelly 09/16/2017

hi, I'd love to chat with you

Kellum10 09/16/2017

I promise it does get easier day by day, moment bye moment. Just say the serenit prayer over and over. You got this girl!!!

sweets81 09/16/2017

Thank you all..I'm really trying to get over this and just let it go, but I feel like I have lost control of myself somehow..I wanna go to sleep but I can't, I wanna get up and get some air but I cant, I wanna eat but nothing taste right...smh..one day at a time and it all feels like one looooonnggg day

11Christmases 09/16/2017

I bet things aren't really that perfect on his side of the fence. It will take time, but sooner or later he'll have the same problems. Hugs to you, and I hope you feel better soon.

kal 09/17/2017

Just take comfort that he will do this again to the next family unfortunately for them,cause he never takes time to grieve like you are lol. And cause of that all those emotions you are dealing yourself he will just put onto the other woman

sweets81 09/17/2017

@kal I feel you, but it's even sadder to know that he will do it to someone else. I would never wanna put anybody through this. I wish people would wear signs saying "Hey, I'm a Narcissist/Psychopath and want to ruin your life" I wish I would've paid attention to the signs instead of believing all his lies...

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