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Can't Stop crying

chay30chay
chay30chay

Well after 3 years of dating and planning on getting married, he breaks up with me. And get this it was via Text message. He won't talk to me. He won't answer the phone. He will only respnd via text message or email. His reasoning was that I had become very comfortable, self-centered and selfish in our relationship. Wow! Just like that. I can go on and on about how its not True but the thing that hurts the most is that after 3 years of dating and 2 years of friendship (In which he persude me) this is what I get! I closed our accounts together, gathered my things from the apartment and mailed his keys back per his request. I am now forced to go on a family cruise that we booked together! I feel like i have PTSD.... I so shocked, hurt and appauled all at the same time. I don't know what to do. I can't eat, I can't sleep and I can't stop crying. I have started seeing a therapist who is really great. And in that moment in her office I feel like perhaps I can survive. However, when I leave the same feelings come back again. I also starte medication that is not helping at all. I am lost and confused. Everyone thinks that I should just be able to get over it but I can't!!!!!

jimthzz
jimthzz
Don't go on the cruise. Try to get a refund. either way, move on. do you really want to be with someone who would treat you this way?

Be glad you are wasting no more time on him.
chay30chay
chay30chay
@jimthzz Im not going with him. He's not going. It was a family cruise with my daughter, her friend, sister and her boyfriend. I didn't want to go but the family put money down and plans were made. He told me to go and enjoy and not to worry about paying him back. So coy of him!
koolman
koolman
That reason could just be a BS excuse he made bc he was really seeing someone else. I know it hurts dear. I'd go on the cruise anyway, find the nearest weight room to push hard through all that pain and anxiety, then drink a lot of wine during meals.
LawDawg
LawDawg
Sorry to hear you are going through difficult times. I know how you feel and I too cannot stop crying. We don't know why people "flip the switch" and all of a sudden they don't want to have anything to do with you. Perhaps they have found someone else, have someone telling them what they should do, or simply don't want a relationship any longer.
Sadly, we can't do anything to change their mind about the relationship.
I have been married 25 yrs and I thought I wanted to split up for good. I flipped that switch myself over something stupid and I let my mouth hurt my wife.
Four months later the switch was flipped back and I realized, I was wrong and wanted to put it all back together. Well, her switch is flipped now and I am going through what you are going through and it is very painful for me and the kids.
Talking to a professional is the best thing to do. Often times when we reach out to friends and other support we get bad advise that hurts us more than helps us.
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. I at times just cry myself to sleep and cry myself awake. Six months later and I am still crying daily and the pain is still there.

You are not alone!
Tsveta
Tsveta
My broken heart reaches out to you. I wish I could hug you! The pain is so familiar. I don't know what advice to give, I just know that we should not give up. So many of us are hurt for no particular reason. Most likely they fall out of love and find someone else. But when we think about that, those are shallow people who don't know how to develop long lasting feelings. They will not find contentment. They will just jump from person to person. Deep down I know that Faith will get them. Nothing in this World is free. Sooner or later we all pay. I hope we all come out of this stronger and find happiness and someone who truly deserves us. Sending all of my love, because I have so much of it, to you and all that hurt.