Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It is almost 9:00 pm and I am know that I am not going to get much sleep tongiht. Sadly, I barely slept last night and the night before. Two or three days ago, my husband decided that he would no longer share a bedroom with me. His decisions are often made without having a conversation with me; he simply implements an action and I have to deal with the consequences. Anyway, I have an interview tomorrow, and I don't know if I will be coherent enough to respond intelligently to the panels qestions because I know I will be so tired (I don't like sleeping alone). We have been married for almost 25 years, and we have never been able to truely commit to each other. I've always known that when he retires (in five years) he will return to his country. He has made this known for years. I have no intentions of moving to another country, which is probably why I stopped investing in the relationship. When we discussed divorcing, we had decided that we would wait for our youngest child to graduate from high school (he is going into his second year of college). Yesterday, I told my husband that it is time to complete the paperwork. I will not share a house with a person who is not interested in me. We will have to relinguish our bonds. I say this like I am brave. I'm scared, because I might end of growing old alone.
You should be taking care of yourself as much as possible. I would suggest you at first you get a body pillow, and change your nightly routine up. It will not be easy and it will hurt.
But you are taking steps in the right direction to move forward.
Being alone is a scary thought, but you have to focus on yourself first.
IF you are religious become a corner stone in the church. Helping other people through their tough times is very empowering. You will never be alone unless you want to be.
It is sad that you two have been married so long and not invested in each other, hopefully it will help you move past this.
Always vent here. plenty of people will help.
I also push through my days and mostly smile but yes inside I am dying too. I have to see him regularly (we have a child) and I put on a front that I am fine. I am not fine. I do it for my son. Although, I am fairly certain he knows better and has me figured out.