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Can't go on..

mal66
mal66
My spouse has made it clear that, after 15yrs, she does not want to be married to me anymore! This has been building; it's not like this came out of left field but it was still devastating to hear. I suffer from chronic, clinical depression as well as T2 diabetes; I know I will not manage either disease the way I will need to. I'm really devastated for our 11yr old son who looks up to me and calls me his one & only 'buddy'. I can't stand the thought of being separated from him. I am so lost and feel so defeated...my world has been turned upside down. Eating & sleeping are chores and life everyday is now a constant nightmare!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry for your pain. Separation is hard. I will tell you, however, that it's no picnic living with someone who's depressed. My STBX suffered from undiagnosed depression for probably 20 years and never did anything about it, except excessive drinking. If you're not in therapy, get yourself there. I know it's hard right now, but think about the things you have to live for, like your son. Get yourself better for him. It's a long road, but better days can be ahead if you take care of yourself and work hard to make a new life for yourself. Wishing you well.
deleted_user
deleted_user
depression and anxiety are horrible. are you seeing a counselor?
mal66
mal66
Yes, I'm seeing a therapist. Last year, 2011, was the year from hell. I abused her emotionally with my threats of suicide and self loathing. I know it took it's toll on her. I just can not envision a brighter tomorrow at all...
momto22001
momto22001
First of all hugs to you, separation for whatever reason is hard on everyone ...

Not sure where you are but many places now would rather have shared custody, you may end up with your son every other week, so it would only be 7 days at a time your would not see him...

take a deep breathe and just breathe

you will get through this...start to make a plan of action, do not move out of the house until you have your agreement in place...

take it one breathe at a time