Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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kal 09/17/2017

My ex is constantly on my mind. I get very intense feelings of grief in the knot of my stomach too and it affects the way I am as i try to disguise the way I feel. I become so unmotivated to do things as I can't get him out of my mind. The worst thoughts are wondering who he's with and the intimacy they could be sharing that I thought was just for us. It helped to cry today sometimes I don't know how to describe my feelings. I know crying helps to get the intense feelings released.i don't know after 10 years of being with someone how they can just walk away. I feel so betrayed and rejected

sweets81 09/17/2017

I'm sorry you are going through this and yes crying does help! I've held so much in over the years that the only thing I can do now is cry. I'd rather cry than do something I may regret! Stay strong and have faith that everything will be okay. I know it's hard, but you will get through this..

Soul_BS 09/17/2017

Why you broke up? And for how long ?

wonj 09/17/2017

I know how you feel... going through the same feelings about my soon to be ex wife. They move on so quickly that it hurts so bad. Please know that it's supposed to get better. Same thing I keep telling myself. Good luck to you!

sjs777 09/17/2017

the trick isn't necessarily to forget them so much as it is to shift the focus to your own happiness going forward. Do things for you. Do new things and meet new people or reconnect with old friends etc

Augie0214 09/17/2017

I've been reading everybody's comments. And I suffer from the same situation as you do. I fill my life with empty meaningless things just to fill the void in my heart. Nothing works dating other people don't even work. At least it doesn't work for me. I just want you to know that I am going through the same exact feelings

kal 09/18/2017

thank you got all your kind replies and yes crying yesterday was a great release . Why we broke up I dont think he ever loved me. We met when his wife left him and I believe I was a punch bag for all those years as I put up with his abusive behaviour, not physical but emotional and neglect. To add to that we bought properties together that have negative equity and he blamed me for ruining his life. On top of that he said I was too untidy, something he wasn't used to, I am a bit of a hoarder as I feel my stuff are the only things that don't leave or reject me...i am still working on this problem and myself. I feel good tonight

ladybug76 09/18/2017

I know your pain all too well. Can't eat can't sleep constant spinning thoughts of him memeories of us. Hurting crying every day, trying to stay posative trying to keep moving on but have no want or will to do anything. This is the third time mine abruptly threw me out and has another girl a week later in our house. Everytime he has begged me back and swore he'd never do it again and every time I believed him. This time we both dropped all contact and let it go. It's pure hell, knowing I am better off without him but missing all the good times we had as well.

Augie0214 09/18/2017

It's so hard to forget the good times. I know that feeling

sjs777 09/18/2017

theres a whole process to mourning the loss of a relationship. just as someone who has passed away, the good times will stay. remember that those memories were with a person who was in love with you, that person is not who they are today. that distinction starts the mourning process

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