This is my nightmare scenario and why I'm in no hurry to jump into another relationship. I guess it's always a risk. Good luck, you know the drill, can't really give advice.

Sorry to hear about your situation, but glad you came back to the site. You should be commended for being the true hero and putting all you did into your marriage, going to counselling and letting him have another chance. I don't think its you that caused both of these guys to have a wandering eye (or other body parts), some guys are just that way. Some guys really aren't different than an animal and feel the need to give of themselves to any and every available woman.

Some guys really aren't different than an animal and feel the need to give of themselves to any and every available woman.

This goes for some women too believe it or not...ask my ex wife

KBB - This was the one thing in life I never wanted to go through again, it's still like a bad dream. My parents have been married for 45 years, and that is what I was raised to think marriage was about the good, bad and you work it out...but you stick together. What makes this a double nightmare is that I've raised his daughter since was 4 months, she's 5 now... I've lost my daughter as well...heartbroken.

Divcrzymom I'm really sorry for you. Hope you can get through it again. I know you can ... Really sucks though I know. Good luck to ya.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Im in a similar place, but with the same guy. He cheated on me several years ago, I stuck it out, we did counseling, things seemed great, we had another baby, and he fell head over heels for someone he was chatting with online.

First of all, you are amazing! You did the best you could to make it work, but as soon as you realized he hadnt changed, you ended it. That takes a lot of strength and courage. (Im having similar revelations about myself and it really is empowering in those moments that I am not curled up in a ball sobbing!) As others have said, youve been through this before so you know what to do. Its heartbreaking, but you know you can get through this. You know this community is great. You know the friends you can count on. You know you are worth more than this.

Next, as you begin to heal, dig deep into why you are attracted to these men, not what is wrong with you. What do these two men have in common? Were you drawn to your second because you were still harboring feelings for your first? Were there warning signs that you missed? Im trying to understand these issues myself, so I know how difficult it can be. It will take time. It may be extremely difficult to look so closely in the mirror and under the microscope but know that it is what you have to do to avoid making the same mistakes.

Hang in there.

Sorry to hear about your story. Prayers sent your way. Stay strong.

So sorry that you are dealing with this. Have you been able to talk with his? Is he willing to change and work on your relationship? I know that there are no easy answers. Stay strong! Hugs!

~Ducktapetherapy77

My husband has begged for my forgiveness and that we could go to therapy. I had good parents, and they taught me what love in a marriage looks like, and this is not love. I believe he loves me, but his version of love and mine are very different. I also will not ever have my daughter think this is what a marriage is about. I want her to see that her mom is strong enough to give everything to make a marriage work, but when it doesn't work smart enough to walk away when I'm not treated well by my husband.

DCM,


So very sorry to hear your story......but I applaud you for being a strong role model to your little girl! Don't question yourself....take this time to heal, the answers will come to you later.


Peace

S