That doesn't surprise me. IMHO although women may show their emotions more easily, I believe them to be the stronger sex with handling emotional stress etc.
I also have to add though that I think each persons handling of loss etc. is as individual as they are.

I think it's a bit strong to say one sex handles it better than the other. We just do it differently. In my experience women are perhaps more likely to ask for help, seek support, go to therapists. Men my talk to family and close friends, go and work it out physically, and many use therapists too. I guess it all has to do with how you use your resources and if you are stuck with to much pride. Men and women can both suffer from lack of tools and pride.

I know that I didn't handle it very well until here recently. SO, in my case..no secrets.

I think because we women tend to talk more to people about our emotions where as men tend to keep to themselves, they don't really cry, at least most don't they really do not show emotions and they exploit in other ways, us women cry and cry this is our way of greiving. I am finding that since I've been on here it has really helped because everybody is going through the same scenario and their is more relation, as opposed to talking to a friend who has never been through this all they can do is listen and support, but we let it all out here, and it helps the greiving process.

I think the men that come here are the ones that are really struggling, those that are doing ok, don't even bother.

Women want to reach out even if they are doing ok.

Hate to say this, buy I think women expect less from men then men do of women, which, in the end, may make it a bit easier. We live in a society that sees men as less committed, more likely to cheat and leave their families. We still think women aren't as capable of it because we are percieved as being more family oriented. Until just recently, it was considered fairly normal for men to have mistresses. But it was a scandal when a woman had one.

Patti,
I am doing great and I still come here. However, I am doing great because I come here...

Hmmm... I thought this was going to say that men seem to handle it in some way better.

Maybe our marriage had role reversal, she seems to have problems and I'm doing just fine. emotionally and financially, so far

I am doing great. The only issues with the X are to do with the kids. I come here to vent because if I vent at her I will go to Jail. LOL.

I also try to help others here with a little bit of "The brighter side of divorce" :)

maybe 50/50 and 50/50... I don't think there's any side one way.. there's some of each who are doing well and are here for one reason or another just because, and some of each who could use or really need support.

I thought I saw more females looking for help, and more males just looking for a place to be.

I was in the MS Community a year before I decided to even look at this community, but I was on some other sites for a few months.. after I was already adjusted to being on my own.

this is the internet... when we're ready to find a forum about a topic, we find them... I don't know if we can cubbyhole reasonings

I guess it would also depend on how the marriage was ended. In my case I might look like I am handling it pretty good on the outside but I still have a lot of internal conflict about it. The whole what did I do or what could I have done differently to make it work? What makes me the one sitting here alone while he already has a girlfriend and when I do meet someone new why am I always waiting for the lies to surface. But I did accept the fact that we were not ment to be within the first two months but that was with the help of great doctors and some meds too. But I didn't need them either after a while cause like they say I have to look within to make my own steps to healing that hurt inside of me. I also focused alot on my kids feelings first before I put mine out on the table they are and always will be my number ones.