Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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So it's a low day. Asking myself if I can actually do this and stay NC with my ex. Every fiber in me wants to check in with him, talk to him, see him. I know in my heart he hasn't and won't change but I keep holding onto this fantasy of what could have been. He will continue to play me forever if I let him back in. This is killing me. Thought if I posted and got this out that it might help.
Could use some words of encouragement today that I'm doing the right thing.....
Could use some words of encouragement today that I'm doing the right thing.....
It's normal to think of what could have been, but in my case at least, in order for things to have been different, I would have had to completely give up my soul to him. I would have had to become the ultimate doormat. Would that have made our relationship better? For him, yes. For me, no. It would have made it different.
Relationships are a two way street. When one party is doing all the giving and the other party is doing all the taking, there isn't much hope. I mean why would the party doing all the taking even want to change? He's the one making out like a bandit! You'd hope that he would want to change to keep you, but if he valued you as a person in the first place, he wouldn't be using like that.
But do not call him and let his foot in the
door.
Abuse and addictions do not improve They
only get worse. I think you understand That
rationally.
Save Sarah from more agony and pain, love
Sarah as your new best friend.
Go to church and pray for strength, guidance
And courage to do right the right for yourself.
You can Not fix him only yourself.
Hugs
(((((( sarah )))))))
We all get that way sometimes. But its in our best interest to let sleeping dawgs lie.
You'll thank yourself later that you did.
never kick a turd
if you meet a turd halfway that puts you in shitsville
Don't try to polish the turd sarah