Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Gretch312 05/02/2017

2016 proved to be a rough year after losing everything in the flood I also lost my marriage and 5 year relationship. My husband left right after the flood.We agreed to a trial separation. Soon after he came to see me to get documents and he acted like everything was fine between us and hugged and kissed me bye and said he would see me soon. I was on social media a day later and I saw pictures of him with another woman. This knocked the breath out of me I couldnt believe he was with someone else and then when I confronted him about it he lied! Fast forward 9 months later I have tried to date myself but no one has had the connection I had with him. I am beginning to think Ill never find it again. I should also note we are not divorced yet. I just keep thinking about him and her and it plagues my mind constantly. I torture myself daily with thoughts and images of them. I have to stop punishing myself for something I have no control of. This is why I chose to seek out a group. Please if you have any advice on letting go I would appreciate it.

mirandac 05/02/2017

Why are you choosing limbo land? There is no
Closure there or letting go. Personally i would
not be dating Until I was divorced and healed
from my marriage. I found divorce recovery to
be a long hard bumpy road after 30 years.

I like therapy and divorce care for the grieving
And divorce issues, i am a simple soul and just
Being separated and still married would make
Me very unsettled too. I still felt like i was a married
Woman even post divorce, it took me a long time
to move past that.

Grief is such a huge part of divorce process and
feeling Your feelings and emotions and detaching
from your spouse, HUGS

bees2000 05/02/2017

So sorry. I was there. My Husband divorced me and married again quickly. But then divorced her too. It felt as part of me died and I am just now coming back to life again. Heal. Allow yourself to cry and feel the death. The end of a marriage is like a death. Mourning is where you are and frankly, I think if we didn't allow our selves to mourn we would take longer to get through it. I am so sorry that you were betrayed.

Dragonflywishes 05/03/2017

I have been in that same situation recently, one way I dealt with it was to get in my car and drive to a secluded place in the country. I found an abandoned barn with little traffic and houses near by. I just sat in my car and screamed and cried and railed against the universe. It helped tremendously, to sit in a peaceful place and yell at the world. I hope you can find a place where you can yell, scream, cry and just get it all out. It has been a month since I had to go there and I am so glad I found that place. Strangely, I have no desire to go back; it feels like I left a lot of my thoughts and feelings there and I can't disturb them. Good luck.

Staystrong207 05/03/2017

It's hard but don't keep thinking about him being with her. Think about it, he's not thinking about you. He is going on with his life and as hard as it may be you should to. As soon as those thoughts come in your head knock them out with a positive thought about your future.

Your future is going to be great. You will see one day. It's not easy, trust me. My husband went and got someone pregnant so you can imagine how hard it is for me to not think about what they did together.

Do what makes you feel good and lifts your spirits. You are not alone in this. We are here for you.

Gretch312 05/03/2017

Thanks you guys I appreciate it. I try to consume myself with work and i just graduated with my Bachelors in Pre Law, and I am focusing all my attention on trying to stay busy. But its the nights that get to me. When I am alone and in bed that's when the thoughts of him flood my mind the most. He told me the night before he left I was the best part of his day. I guess I am trying to figure out how you go from the best part of someone's day to not being a part of it at all. I think what I need is closure. However, I am pretty sure I am never going to get it. So I will continue to stay busy so that someday Ill wake up and it will be like he never existed. He will be just another person to me that is all I can hope for.

Tiff123 05/19/2017

Hello, I am sorry you are going through this. Have you considered talking to a license counselor or him about this? He may be seeing another woman, but both of you are still married. It may be best if the both of you talk to see the status of your marriage and how to move forward. Praying for you.

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