Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Anew 04/10/2018

I left my husband of 5 years 2 months ago tomorrow. I feeling really disappointed and let down. He was verbally and emotional abuse to me and I feel like a fool to even miss him. I feel so alone. I just want someone to talk to.

edubz 04/10/2018

Hi there, I know it must be really painful right now. If the relationship was abusive you’re probably doing the right thing, but it is so hard at the time. When we’re so close to our loved ones it’s almost impossible to see the reality of the situation, for either the good or the bad.

I’m in a relationship right now and considering leaving; reading these posts and hearing the stories of all of these people gives me hope.

Good luck!

WhatHappensNow 04/11/2018

Keep busy! I feel the same way and I have found that if I just get up, walk the dog and keep busy it takes my mind off the sadness.
Oh, and keep away from your phone!! Major distraction :)

ifinallygetit 04/11/2018

You are likely trauma bonded to your ex. If you have the time, it might be good to read as much as you can about narcissism and trauma bonding.

I dated a narcissist for 1 year.and it took me seven months to get over him. Even to this day there are times I still miss him. During the love bombing stage, he appeared to be the most wonderful person in the world. I have a very hard time separating the good from the bad. It was like I was dating Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde.

You have 5 years of feelings to work through. Be patient with yourself. Know that you never deserved what happened to you. That is is normal to miss this person because it was all you knew for so long. Give yourself time to heal.

Here if you need a friend. Feel free to PM me.

snflwrgrl 04/11/2018

You are not alone!! I will be praying for you and for your husband. <3 None of us go into marriage planning our divorce. :( We have hopes and dreams... When my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore and left me and our two young sons I was completely devastated. My emotions were all over the place. I went to DivorceCare and it really helped me. Maybe it can help you too. :) You don’t have to be in the process of going through a divorce to go. There I met other women who were going through similar situations as mine with similar feelings. I didn’t feel so alone anymore. :) I found support and understanding. A few of the women and I even became lifelong friends. :) They had DivorceCare classes for my boys too while I was in mine so that was very helpful. The program gave me a wealth of information on relationships, separation, and divorce and the tools I needed to start the healing process. It’s offered nationwide and I encourage you to look for one in your area. <3 I’m glad you reached out.

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