Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
my fiancé has left me, he said he doesn’t want to be with me and he’s unhappy. I’m not sure what to do, I had to move back in with my mom and I’m completely unhappy. I feel like my pain is too much for the couple of friends I still have, I’m so tired and empty and sad all the time. I’m loosig weight, I just wanna talk to him but I’ve already done this to the point that he’s blue in the face, I want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. I’m not perfect but by any means I did what I could for him and I’m hurt. I’ve never had this long or this serious of a relationship and I just really need someone to help, or talk me through it. I feel so alone all the time.
As you've tried to honestly reason with him until he's blue in the face, then evaluate him as unreasonable, so now it is time for a wise plan to create your life aside from this matter & with a different view of what's to come of you, without him. And I really do believe that you've worked hard to do your best & no person is so perfect to never have conflicting issues. Only it takes both of you to restore a chance together. Still, your thoughts are trapped with his choices & actions now.
You are still on the go to search for a way to stay together & make him happy, understandably. I know this feeling of desperation seems overwhelming. Yet, in the sad light of it all, you are really already accepting this change by appointment of self-survival kicking in, in which place acceptance naturally takes over, though unwillingly. And this is done to protect your emotions; this is a traumatic experience to your nerves & sub-consciously your mind will eventually reject the idea of being in so much pain, nature has a way of repairing that part of your heart that's broken. Funny thing is that when we hurt in our heart, it is much like obtaining a scratch on the surface of the skin; in time we just naturally heal.
Scars may stay from the end point of this relationship, but these are reminders of avoiding what has injured you before. And you've learned from this experience ways to have healthy relationships in the future. Life goes on & new adventures are sure to come forth. Keep an open & hopeful mind for a better love life. And you can never say that this guy might not wake up one day with a reasonable mind - and come back to you. Still live to create a life in which you are mentally & emotionally safe & happy. You know what you deserve to have in a loving relationship. Find it.
Bless you! And best to you.
Remiah ~♥~ ღ
The best input I can share is this: Do your best to walk away. There will be someone out there for you that will love you without his kind of games.
I'm sorry you have to deal with the pain. I know what its like...BUT..you'll get through it, believe me.
I hope this helps.