Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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LoveLillys
LoveLillys

After 9 years and 2 kids latter he says it's over 2 days after I lost my job. He was already on dating sites before he told me. It's now been 2 months and I still can't seem to let him go in my heart. I want too he was not good to me while we were together but I still want him. I don't know why or how to make it stop and I hate myself for it.

Raymur
Raymur
I think the reason you feel the way you do is that you miss the companionship. I'd say you have such a strong need for it that you were willing to go on not being treated right as you said. I know it's hard to let go. But something better will happen. Just keep the Faith and be patient. It's the hardest part I know. I miss my late wife and the one I will soon be devorced from. It's a shame but also what is best. I know that the companionsh is what I miss because I can tell you otherwise what I miss about her,
mirandac
mirandac
I Would get into therapy and attend divorce care. Now
is a great time to seek help, support and guidance. Just
for you alone.

You need to heal yourself and your heart. You are
Grieving your losses. This will take time to move thru
and The emotional rollercoaster will run from triggers
and Uncomfortable feelings and emotions.

Vent on here often that helps and in just helping others.
The first 4 months for me were the worst after the separation.

None of this is easy and the worse the relationship the harder
It can be to heal. Time takes time so be extra gentle with yourself.
HUGS
JBroken
JBroken
Hi.. i completely understand your pain. 14 years together and 1 child and after about 3 months separation i am making the decision to move forward. the arguments have pretty much been about the same things. it definitely hurts i cry about once a day or tear up if i talk about it bc i truly wanted us to work. BUT i have realized that i shouldnt have to feel bad for wanting to be treated a certain way and he be unable or unwilling to provide it to me. the good times will always be there and will make you hold on...but if there were more bad than good than its best to let go and create a better environment for your children. it will be hard my 3 1/2 yr old keeps asking why we cant be a family and if i love his father.. but eventually the separation will be the norm and they too will be ok. i don't know how old your children are.. but if they are old enough to express themselves than let them do so. i have to keep telling myself... its okay to mourn the end of the relationship, but i will be okay and things will be better i just need to be patient!

be kind to yourself.