Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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MissHopeful 03/17/2017

I'm not sure where else to go right now or who to really talk to. My (now ex) boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. It wasn't ideal for either of us, but it needed to happen. We're both dealing with a lot of mental health issues, having a difficult time getting our lives together and just figuring ourselves out. And it's like when we're both together, we just would take in each other's stress, anger, and anxiety. It started to put a strain our relationship. Which has been going on for quite a while now, but I neither of us wanted to break up with each other, so we just endured it for as long as we could.

We ended on good terms. Hell, we comforted each other through the breakup and even joked around a bunch before I went home. I just don't know what I'm gonna do without him. He was my best friend. He knew me better than anyone. He loved me more than anyone else ever could. My heart is broken.

I've been nonstop panicky ever since I left his place yesterday. All I want to do is text him. To fix this. But I know that's not gonna happen. At least not any time soon. So, I'm just an absolute mess today.. I'm sure I'll be a mess for a long time, but I'm trying really hard to remember that this is best for both of us. We need this time to fix and separately build our own lives. I know that we both just want each other to be happy. It just hurts that it won't involve us being together anymore.

I know my next step is to get my life together, but it's gonna be so hard. Especially without him.. There's so much I need to do. But I know I need to try. And I will.

I just feel so empty and alone right now.

Peace_of_mind1 03/17/2017

You're not alone, keep up the good work! You're maturing and The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow

listener4 03/18/2017

I went through the same thing. It's very confusing when a breakup ends lovingly. You have mixed feelings, like I should hate this person, I should feel lucky to dodge an unsuccessful relationship bullet, etc. but you don't feel that way at all. And it's hard for your friends and family to understand. You need to put your love toward yourself right now. It's a hard thing to do but give yourself positive affirmations, hug yourself and cry. It sounds cheesy but will give you a brief sense of relief, here if you need to talk more

luxnoctem 03/18/2017

I'm going through this too. But I made it clear I didn't want this from the beginning. Today he got all his belongings and we said goodbye. It's hard, we had a life together and now I don't know where to start picking up the pieces.

listener4 03/18/2017

I've gone through a lot of counseling, and one good piece of advice was to actually feel the pain not avoid it. Don't judge it either. I got so much anxiety because I would be so afraid to feel it. It's hard because you try to do everything right and be the Bigger person, and shit keeps happening. You've got to catch a break sometime right? I hope so.

MissHopeful 03/19/2017

@listener4
That's actually exactly what I'm doing. I'm not going to let myself suppress this or ignore what I'm feeling. Imy trying my best to confront it and just be honest with myself about the situation. My family keeps telling me I need to distract myself, but I think right now I just need to grieve.

jaynib 03/19/2017

You are so ahead of the game by recognizing it. Yes, it hurts but it gets better. Grieving is important. It's also important that you have a good support system. He was your best friend so of course you'll miss that. Who else can you lean on? Good support group, church fellowship, counselor? Hugs.

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